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Let’s Talk Chastity! (1)

Sadly, this topic is turning into a ‘not so fancy’ topic as the days go by (Sigh). 

Chastity is sexual purity. It is a virtuous character. It is purity in conduct and intention (action and thought alike). Chastity concerns everyone, married or unmarried.

Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge (Hebrews 13:4) 


The focus of this first part is the unmarried. Fornication is sexual intercourse between people not married to each other. 

Hebrews 13:4 talks about God judging fornicators. If you are unmarried and having sex you are wrong.

 Some people say that they must “sample the goods” they are about to buy before they can pay. Some ‘samplers’ run away after consuming the better part of the “goods” (thieves). Some men even threaten their fiancees with breaking off their relationships if she refuses to allow them with their selfish requests. God is watching! 


Be not deceived. Sex is not love. If he/she truly loves you, he/she’ll wait for you. Don’t give in out of desperation. Wait for the right time- after marriage. God’s judgment isn’t something to dare. Don’t build your marriage on a faulty foundation. 



Some women were discussing sometime ago in a particular group and I was totally shocked at the disgraceful things they were saying. The question was “what was your experience like on your wedding night?”. Answers like “I was very tired because I was heavily pregnant. I gave birth the following week” totally broke my heart. Several other heart wrenching comments flooded the place. Only a minute few married as virgins. How sad! Then I thought and still keep thinking, “what values will be passed to the children that are just being born?” 

You and I can be instruments of change by setting our priorities right. The watchword should be: “MARRIAGE BEFORE SEX”. 


It’s so sad what the values are in this age. Unlike before when virginity was highly cherished and a thing of pride. I believe it still is any way. It’s not just a thing of culture. Hear what the Bible says in Deuteronomy 22:13-21: 

If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, … and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid. … But if this thing be true, and 

the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: 

Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die. 


God’s standard remains the same. Your virginity should be a gift to your husband or wife. Note that I’m talking to both men and women. It concerns both sexes. Fornication is a sin, take it or leave it. You can stay chaste. Choose to. 



Sex is God’s gift, beautiful only within the confines of marriage. If till now you are keeping your virginity safe, please lock it even farther away till you wed. In case you have been engaging in the sin of fornication, please listen to God’s shout out to you today to quit. Turn away from that unholy path. God is merciful, come to Him for forgiveness. He’ll cleanse you and make you as white as snow. Flee from everything that keeps taking you down that sinful path. Make up your mind to live a life of sexual purity.

You can stay chaste if you set your heart to.


OMOSEBI, Mary Omolola

Omosebi Mary Omolola (PhD)

Omosebi Mary Omolola (Ph.D) is a lover of God, a disciple of The Lord Jesus Christ and a teacher by calling. She is on assignment to groom godly youths and women through the help of the Holy Spirit in this end-time. She treasures family. She has a strong desire to see marriages thrive in this troubled world. She speaks and writes passionately about marriage, relationships, and Christian living. She enjoys a beautiful marriage with her husband and best friend. She is a mother, writer, an entrepreneur and researcher and teacher of Food Science and Technology.

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