The dictionary traditionally defines understanding as “the faculty of the human mind by which it. . .comprehends the ideas which others express and intend to communicate.” Yet in the Bible, understanding is not just a transfer of information, but empathy for the other person.
Consider Exodus 36:1, which tells how two craftsmen name Bezalel and Aholiab were given divine wisdom and understanding, “to know how to do all manner of work for the service of the sanctuary,” so that they could “do according to all that the LORD commanded.” This is a scriptural example of what the Bible refers to a “understanding.” These men, and the other artisans working under the supervision, were given the divine ability not only to know how to work excellently with gold and silver and leather and beautiful fabrics and thread, but also how to communicate with one another in a way that would move their assignment forward.
We must find this kind of understanding- the kind that goes beyond mere facts to empathize with the other- is essential in building our relationship and family. When someone knows that her spouse understands some situation from her perspective (and vice versa), it’s amazing how many problems dissipate. As we make Jesus Christ the Builder of our homes (Psalm 127:1), we can begin to see our relationships reflect God’s character.