This post is in response to the above question asked by a woman who has been worshipping in a Church different from her husband’s and whose children rotate which of the two Churches they should attend.
From my point of view, a family should worship together. As I see it, attending different churches is a form of division/disunity. That means they are unequally yoked. Since they believe in different doctrines. The couple are not able to agree on a particular church. “Can two walk together except they agree?” No! The children are also at risk of being confused.
On a personal note, the first question I would ask anyone in this kind of situation is, “Was your husband attending that church before you married him?” If yes, then she knew before hand what she was getting into. Why did you marry him then? My next question is, “Those doctrines you disagree with in his church, are they sinful?” If “No”, I will advice that she joins him in his church and continue to pray concerning the issue. God owns the heart of kings and is the one that can direct it to wherever He wants. Continue to pray that his eyes of understanding be opened. Rebellion or force will not change him.
*I will quickly tell the singles to remember that you MUSTN’T go into marriage with the mindset that you will change your husband. That’s a dead end. So, look well before you leap. The man is your head. Take it or leave it. That’s the divine order. So before you give yourself to be married, remember that you are relinquishing the authority over yourself to him. These are some of the issues that should be discussed before marriage. “
Back to the issue at hand, let’s look at 1Peter 3:1,2,6 (AMP)
IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives, 2 When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].
6. It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you].
That part of the Scripture didn’t add a condition for our submission as wives. I always like to emphasise that we should do our part as unto the Lord.
2Corinthians 10:6- And after you have become fully obedient, we will punish everyone who remains disobedient.
Unity of a couple’s spirit men is very important and growing together in the same spiritual environment will enhance their blending.
~ OMOSEBI Mary Omolola