One factor that destroys relationships is making assumptions. For instance, a wife calls her husband who didn’t answer his phone. She assumes that he must have been with another woman hence his refusal to answer her call. A husband too may start problems where they are nonexistent because he chooses to mind read his wife. He thinks and probably voices her ‘unspoken thoughts’. Now the probability is that there is actually nothing to worry about (as much as there could be something to worry about).
Someone will say that there is no smoke without a fire. Well, for your information, sometimes there is actually no fire at all. That thing you are calling smoke is actually fog. It is an environmental issue and it’s blurring your vision- and you have refused to see past it.
We must remember that our Heavenly Father believes the best about us. He loves us that much. Even when we didn’t deserve that love, He loves us still. He believes some good could still come out our rottenness. He could have just let us perish but He didn’t.
If our relationships must thrive, we must learn to believe the best about our partners. That is what love does. Give him/her the benefit of the doubt. Being overly suspicious of one’s partner can spell doom for the relationship. That may stem from your own insecurities and mere paranoia.
Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. (1 Corinthians 13:7 AMP)
It is however possible that God is helping you see the hidden things about your partner. This is to say that I am not saying you should go blind to the bad characters being exhibited by your partner. What you need is the help of The Holy Spirit to discern when there is truly a smell of trouble and when there is none.
Overall, choose to believe the best about your friends or spouse. Don’t allow the devil sow the seed of discord in your relationship through your negative thoughts. Don’t create fires of war where there was none before. The experiences people share, movies we watch etc carry with them truck loads of negativities that if care is not taken, precious relationships will keep being destroyed. Seive the information that comes your way. Test every spirit, action, motive, . . .and choose that which is the truth.
Preserve your relationships. Believe the best before you assume the worst.
Guard your heart with all diligence.
May the love of God be shed abroad in your hearts and mine!
~ OMOSEBI Mary Omolola