I can remember a number of times when the battery of my father’s car would run down when i was a child and he would have to take it to the battery charger so he could replace the electrolyte and charge it up. He could have simply changed the battery instead of charging it if he had the means. However, he had to opt for something that could extend the service life of the battery. God dropped a lesson in my heart from this. . .
When the charge on the romance of your marriage runs low, what do you do? (I am talking to both the male-man and female-man here today). Do you throw your spouse away like a used napkin or go get your battery charged?
Many people in our age just give up on love. They simply find a substitute to pour their love on (human, animal or activity). They think that their spouses do not deserve the effort so they choose to pour their love on someone else. I often times wonder what happens to the love spouses claim made them marry each other in the first place. . .
Just like my father’s case, i think we must allow God tune our mentality into knowing that you are not allowed to change your spouse just for any reason like it was in the time of Moses, we will definitely work at having marriages that are in good conditions. You ignore something in a deteriorating state when you know you have an alternative.
When you decide to truly hang on to the vow you shared- for better or worse, you will have the zeal to invest in your marriage and see to it through the help of God that your marriage is well lubricated so that it can function like it is supposed to.
Here are some tips for keeping the battery of your marriage charged:
☆ Always remember that you are lovers.
I am beginning to think that many people forget why they chose to marry the person they did. They saw something in them that made them decide to share their love with them. You should be committed to loving your spouse. You are lovers. Do what lovers do. Romance each other. Communicate with each other your love. Talk about your love. Enjoy physical and emotional affection. Touch each other. Kiss. Hold hands. Look into each other’s eyes. Bask in the love you share. Be thrilled by your spouse. Touch ‘base’ as often as possible too. Enjoy each other.
☆ Break the routine chain.
I don’t know about you but I get tired of doing the same thing over and over for a long time. There is the need to revamp your love life. Do something different in your relationship with your spouse. Variety is indeed the spice of life. You don’t have to change the person; just change your methods from time to time as suits your relationship. Be dynamic.
☆ Be spontaneous.
Don’t be too predictable. It does not have to be his birthday before you buy him a gift. Neither does it have to be your anniversary before you get her that thing she has longed for all this while. You can drop a love note in the strangest of places, where he can find it. You can clear the dishes before she wakes up one morning. Just a bar of chocolate on your way back from work can communicate you thinking about your spouse to her. Give your spouse a kiss when he/she is not expecting one. Organize a surprise date night. . .
Think up the ideas friends. Get inspired. Just surprise your spouse.
☆ Reminisce together.
Talk about your young love. Talk about your milestones. Talk about the fun times you had while courting or early on in your marriage. Talk about how you met and the tough time she gave you before agreeing to a relationship with you. Talk about what thrilled you about your spouse. . .
Remind yourselves of the ‘good old days while you long for a better present and the best the future will bring with it for you.
☆ Take some time out for the recharge.
Deliberately make out time for your love life. Set out time to talk about your desires for your marriage, your displeasure and solutions to your issues. You can organise a romantic weekend getaway- you and your spouse alone. Or you just turn your room to a theatre after the kids have gone to sleep. . .
Make a way around your tight schedules and slim bank accounts.
Yes, pray together and individually about your love life. God is love. He is the best love tutor you could ever have. Ask Him to teach you to love. Ask The Holy Spirit to teach you what to do per time. . .
There is no need to discard that battery; just charge it up!
~ OMOSEBI Mary Omolola