When I was a child, the groundnut/popcorn sellers would put their wares in a box made with glass girded with wooden frames which they called “show glass”.
Any customer is free to taste the groundnut/popcorn to confirm if it’s crunchy or properly roasted. Some others taste for the adequacy of the salt/sugar. The amazing part of the story is that the customer has the right to either buy the groundnut / popcorn or not- even after having a portion of it.
In case of rejection, the groundnut seller may walk away. But God help you if you just tasted groundnut from a woman with a very sharp tongue and you refused to buy from her. Nevertheless, the reaction of the seller usually does not change the decision of the buyer.
It breaks my heart when I see ladies ditch their pride for whatever reason they feel is good enough. Some look for the love they have probably not gotten from home desperately and thus fall victim of predators who go around looking for gullible ladies.
Others out of their greed for material things and covetousness loose their dignity to men who have no regard for them- men who only want a taste of their “wares” without intentions to settle down with them in marriage.
Stop putting yourself on display like a valueless person.
Don’t hurry off to get married as a way of escape from your ‘overbearing’ family or your slim economic status.
Don’t grant any man who is not your husband assess to your body in a sexual way.
Don’t get pregnant in the name of trying to ‘tie’ a man down.
These are wrong reasons to get married.
Ensure you are certified for marriage before you venture into it. Wrap up yourself tightly in God’s love.
Introduction is not the same as a wedding. It is not a licence to move in with your fiancé.
An engagement ring is not a marriage seal.
Don’t break the chain and sell yourself short of your worth to any man. Don’t jump classes. You will regret doing that.
God’s order is for you to marry first before engaging in sexual relations.
Any man who can not wait to get married to you before having sex with you should wait outside your life. This should be your resolve.
Fear God and love yourself.
A man who cannot wait for you before marriage will most likely not stay faithful to you in marriage. Getting married does not control lust. The fear of God does. Having wrong values don’t just disappear into thin air on the wedding day. Each one of us is like a seed – bearing fruit. It is what you carry on your inside that you sow in the future.
Respect yourself first if you desire respect from others.
Like I usually tell myself and others who care to know, I have one life to live here on earth; I have to live it well. There is no room for playing games with my life. A slip on my way may give an indelible scar. The stigma may remain till the end of your time here on earth.
Stop playing games with your life.
Don’t turn yourself into a car that men test – drive.
You are precious in the sight of God. Don’t treat yourself like a nobody. Hoist the flag of chastity.
Don’t sell out your birthright for a brief moment of pleasure (whatever that translates into for you).
Wisdom is profitable to direct!
~ OMOSEBI Mary Omolola