I see one of the Pastors’ wife quietly slip into the Church vestry as we were about to end the intercessory prayers that bright Sunday morning. The first thing that struck me that morning was the fact that she was unusually late to Church that morning.
It was still quite early and we could barely see each other’s faces. But when I did see her face, I was totally in shock.
I had noticed one time before that particular day that this soft- spoken beautiful woman had come to church with a bruised lip but seriously I just thought it was a boil or something.
But this time for real, I just felt it in my spirit that something was not right with her. I approached her after service that day and she agreed to meet with me the next day.
She explained to me all the horror she’d been enduring in her marriage of ten years. Years of battering and all sorts of emotional violence.
Many youths had mentioned how they desire their marriage would be like that of Pastor and Mrs X, in my presence
Who could have thought that our ever smiling Pastor X would be capable of hitting his wife?
Who could have thought that this tongue talking and expository teacher of the Word was not upholding the truths of the word he taught and preached day in day out?
Who could have thought that this couple who would always wear matching clothes to every social function and Church service were in actual fact nothing from being in unity?
I couldn’t have thought.
Even the sister in question couldn’t have imagined herself in such a loveless marriage with an hypocritical man.
It is sad that we have to talk about this even in the household of faith. We are however faced with the reality of it.
Well, hear this. God hates all forms of violence.
Before someone will take me up, saying that I didn’t wait to hear the husband’s side of the story. . .
No human or woman deserves to be assaulted. . . Yes. No matter what the woman has done and how unsubmissive she is. Yes, you have no excuse to go down that route even if that was your parent’s way of showing his anger.
Your wife is not your child or slave so why are you treating her like one?
The alarming increase in the number of people suffering from domestic violence is disheartening. I cannot even begin to mention the number of marriages suffering from this menace, that I know personally.
Jesus’ recommendation for conflict resolution spells out the steps you need to take:
“If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. Then if he or she won’t accept the church’s decision, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector. (Matthew 18:15-17 NLT)
“Speak out” is what I would tell you if you are a victim of domestic violence if trying to reason together personally has not yielded any fruits.
“Fear God” is what I would tell every perpetrator of this evil called domestic violence.
You need the Holy Spirit so you can bear the fruit of self – control
And if you’re single, would you please stop coveting another person’s marriage and pray for God’s ideal marriage for you?
May The Holy Spirit invade every home and fill every heart with the fear of God!
~ OMOSEBI Mary Omolola