Two men sat at the table next to mine in a restaurant and I just couldn’t help but overhear their discussion because they wouldn’t just tone their voices down. The part of their conversation that struck me was something like this:
Mr. A: How is your marriage my friend? You don’t seem to be looking happy these days.
Mr. B: You just asked me a JAMB question o. The last 2 years seem like 20 years. I am even tired. My wife is nothing like she was in the first few months of our marriage. She is now always moody and complaining that I don’t give her the attention she desires from me. We stopped praying together months back sef. Our sex life is a total mess. The few times we get intimate, she would just lay there. It seems she just allows me to have my way out of obligation. And I am the only one that initiates the intimacy. Thank God I am a Christian, who know what measures I might have taken?
Mr. A: Hmmm. . . It is well o. But have you talked with her about all these issues you have raised?
Mr. B: We barely talk o. Except for the casual greetings.
Mr. A: My dear brother, you really need to have a meeting with your wife immediately before things go totally out of hands. Set out time to discuss with your wife and allow her pour out her mind without restrictions. You should do the same too. I will be praying along with you
I smiled to myself as I gulped the last portion of my drink and rose to leave the restaurant. Thank God for Mr. A whose advice was just what I would have said too (Else I might have been forced to join their discussion. Lol).
Now to my message for married folks today:
I recommend that couples organise Annual General Meetings (AGM), or Quaterly General Meetings (QGM) or Monthly General Meetings (MGM) as the case may be, for the stakeholders in your marriage.
This is important to help you keep in touch with each other. Like I always say, “I just don’t want to wake up one day and find out that a truck (not only lizard) can now pass in between my husband and I.”
These meetings need to be intentionally fixed and regular. Go to the meeting without bias and be ready to listen and speak with all sincerity. The complaints from all parties involved should be matters arising and dealt with accordingly. Resolve to make sure that you attend to every matter without any iota of selfishness.
This is not a call to battle. It is a call to seek peace.
Let God be the chairman of those meetings. Yield yourselves to His directions for your situation through His words and trust Him to help you maintain decorum in your marriage.
When is your next general meeting going to be?