It so happens that my husband’s birthday and our wedding anniversary are exactly 7days apart so i normally put up posts to celebrate both on Facebook. Last year, someone on my friend list made a comment on the birthday post I had put up to celebrate my husband. This person said I should not ‘proclaim’ my good relationship to the world. And his reason was that he felt I should be scared of husband snatchers. All I could do at that time was smile endlessly.
Here really is the point. I am a minister and my marriage is a ministry. I am an encourager and my marriage should be too. I don’t talk about my life to brag to anyone but to encourage people that they can have fulfilling relationships under God. I do what i do out of personal conviction. I have never said my life/spouse/marriage was perfect. I am simply an epitome of God’s grace and I am ALWAYS humbled by that fact.
However, we hear too many negative stories about marriage in our wold today. We need to counter the effect of all the negativity though by pitching the positive stories to the glory of God. The very reason I love posts where spouses celebrate their marriages of several years.
I remember someone reacting to that friend’s comment and asking why I still thanked the person for such a comment. My response was that we see things differently one from another and my show of gratitude was not sarcastic. I meant it. It doesn’t necessarily mean one is right and the other is wrong if we hold varying views about an issue. What’s important is to have the right motives for whatever we do and how we do them.
Well, as usual I talked to God about that incidence and I got it clear. . .
“There is no fear in love” was what I heard in my spirit.
My husband had a similar experience. For my birthday anniversary last year, he decided to put up a picture of me on his Whatsapp status daily from the first day of June which was my birth month, until the last day. One of his friends, who by the way, I had great regard for made a comment that made me shake my head at how people can be so funny. The person in question asked my husband why he was flooding his status with my pictures. Of course, he told that person that it was his status and he was free to do with it what he liked. I actually found the whole scenario weird and almost couldn’t wrap my head around it.
In any case, I love the book of Songs of Solomon like wetin happen. And it is a support system for this post.
The man and his woman in that book did so well celebrating their love. They told each other how wonderful they were to each other. . . And they told others too.
The love they shared obviously thrived so well. They watered their love with their words as they did with their actions.
I have heard some married women say that the last time they heard their husbands tell them that they loved them was on their wedding day. And God help those who got married in a country like Nigeria where you don’t even have to say “I love you”, to your spouse on your wedding day.
I feel so elated when my husband speaks highly about me while teaching in Church or while just speaking to people. Of course I know he loves me but we still make sure to affirm our love for each other at every given opportunity.
I sometimes laugh within myself when I see someone talking to the spouse over the phone end the call with “you too”. I could almost guess that the person on the other side of the phone had said “I love you”. You shouldn’t get tired of saying “I love you” to your spouse. . . And be sure you mean it.
When last did you tell your wife or husband that you love them?
When last did you send an SMS or email to remind him/her how much you cherish him/her?
How about you pick up your phone and give your spouse a call. . .Tell him/her you are thinking of him and you love her.
Yes, he/she probably knows that you love him/her. It is however imperative that you tell your spouse constantly.
It’s okay if you decide to celebrate your love only in the corners of your house.
It’s okay also if you decide to ask others to celebrate with you like the Shulamite in the book of Song of Solomon.
However way you decide. . .
Choose wisely. . .
Just make sure you celebrate and strengthen the chords of your love. Celebrate your spouse! Celebrate the grace of God. Celebrate God’s way.
© OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD