Quite unlike me, I slept off on the sofa in the living room while watching a television programme one evening. The almighty kerosene slept off?
It was then that it dawned on me that I had been working so much and having very little time to rest in the preceeding days. Of course, my next line of action was to slow down on the work load and make sure I had adequate rest in the days following.
Many of us live our lives as such. We work and work without taking time out for our much deserved rest.
Rest refreshes you and gives you vigour to do more after the period of rest.
I am tending towards how lack of rest affects our marriage with this post. . .
With the peculiarity of families nowadays, husband and wife tend to come back home practically every day totally (or almost totally) fagged out.
We continue like this month after month; year after year and then we discover we don’t even ‘flow’ with each other anymore.
There is a need to set time for refreshing as a couple.
You need constant breaks from the hustle and bustle of the work place and businesses to keep in touch with each other.
You can’t just keep going in your marriage without making efforts to rejuvenate your relationship.
You will crash.
If you don’t plan that break and insist on taking it, you won’t.
You will just keep making excuses like, “Where do we keep the children?” “My work is so demanding” “Annual leave at my place of work is usually for just two weeks. ”
Let me tell you, there will always be a way of escape if you rely on the One who can make it possible. The One who set the pace for rest- God.
You can plan the annual leave of both od you to the same period. You can let grandma or a trusted relative watch the children for a few days. As a matter of fact, you can get a partner couple with whom you can swap watching the children so that both couples can organise their own get away.
You don’t need a whole month for the refreshing neither do you have to leave your house during that period if you can’t afford to. The simple fact that you do not have the children around will aid your connection.
Worst case scenario: you aren’t able to figure out how to handle all these barriers to the getaway and you know you need that period of refreshing. Pending the time you are able to organise a proper getaway, set the children to sleep early for the next few days and communicate with each other. Spend time alone without the interference of phones, television, etc.
Plan that period of refreshing my friends. You need it. You need that constant lubrication of your relationship. I tell you, you will be glad you do. Remember to send in your Prophet offering. Lol
You don’t have to go down the road of loosing connection with your spouse and being just housemates when you can keep the marriage going smoothly by taking time out to rest together on a regular basis.
Prevention is sure better than cure.
- OMOSEBI Mary Omolola
© 2016
