I want us to learn something from a woman in the Bible to whom I am endeared. She is the woman in the book of Song of Solomon- the Shulamite.
The Shulamite told her man what she wanted from him. You may want to read the Song of Solomon to see for yourself.
Many of us just expect our men to know what to say or do.
Helloooo, they are not spirits.
We must learn to communicate our needs to them.
Communication is very important in any relationship marriage inclusive.
Stop assuming that he can read the expression on your face or that he knows why you are banging the door angrily and he’s chosen to ignore.
What will happen is that frustration builds up and you are all the more unhappy thus creating a wider gap between both of you. An inch today, and another inch tomorrow, the farther apart you are growing.
Instead of thinking that he’s just insensitive, tell him explicitly (and lovingly) what you want.
Even if you’re yet to be married, start learning how to talk it out respectfully.
Your courtship is meant for praying and TALKING. Talk, communicate about every (and I mean EVERY) possible thing.
You are on the dress rehearsal, rehearse well. It’ll aid your performance when the real show begins.
Save yourselves and your marriage the stress.
This applies to men too as much as it does to women but this post is directed at the women.
I will surely be back for the men. . .
In all, make sure you do this one thing:
COMMUNICATE!
-Omosebi Mary Omolola (PhD)
© 2016
