I just found this in my archives:
I am so black; but [you are] lovely and pleasant [the ladies assured her]. O you daughters of Jerusalem, [I am as dark] as the tents of [the Bedouin tribe] Kedar, like the [beautiful] curtains of Solomon! [Please] do not look at me, [she said, for] I am swarthy. [I have worked out] in the sun and it has left its mark upon me. My stepbrothers were angry with me, and they made me keeper of the vineyards; but my own vineyard [my complexion] I have not kept. SOS 1v5-6
It’s very convenient to find all the bad stuff in people and situations around us. The worst part is that we sometimes do this same injustice to ourselves too.
Instead of always putting down your spouse, child, in-law, neighbour, co-worker,…, look out for their positive attributes.
There must be some innate good.
Besides, you may not know what they’ve been through or where they are coming from that birthed the ‘weaknesses’ in them.
Why not pray that God will help them drop the bad attitude(s) you have seen in them and become better persons.
Encourage them by pointing out and appreciating their strength.
At the same time correct them in love.
And to you,
Have you been darkened by situations in the past?
Probably all the people around you see in you are your faults and weaknesses. They keep talking down at you. No one is 100% bad.
Look at the bright side.
List out your strenghts, appreciate God for them and capitalize on them.
You are wonderfully and fearfully made by God. Appreciate yourself.
I love me! What about you?
-OMOSEBI Mary Omolola (PhD)