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Who Do You Let Into Your Ship?

 

While running my Master’s degree programme, I lived in one of the school hostels.

The block adjacent ours was occupied by some guys. There was a particular room on that block, where the occupants were always blasting music anytime there was electric power supply.

One day, I just started humming one of the songs that those guys used to play, which happened to be the one most common played by them at a time they weren’t even playing the song.

My room mate suddenly yelled out at me at the top of her voice. “Mama!” she shouted.

I looked lost as to the reason she called me out that way. She asked me if I knew the lyrics of the song I was gladly humming, to which I answered in the negative. She told me the lines prior the one I kept humming repeatedly and I was shocked at myself. She knew that I don’t listen to secular music so she was surprised that I was humming one.

The song practically diffused into my system because I kept hearing it even though it was against my will. I guess the soft spot was from the fact that the composer mentioned “Hallelujah” in one of the lines of the song.

My friend, be careful about your company.

If your friend is fond of lying, you might soon find yourself lying freely.

If your friend is extravagant, you might soon start living above your means in a bid to keep up with the tides.

People in your life will either have positive or negative effects on your life; there just must be an impact.

Some people will encourage you to draw closer to God while some will pull you farther away from Him.

Some people’s presence in your life will cost you far more than you can imagine. Such persons could be the loophole for affliction entering your life.

Some people will bring storms into your life (remember Jonah?) while others will bring calm and peace just like Jesus.

Prayerfully choose the people you allow into your space.

Choose the people you allow into the ship of your life CAREFULLY!

© OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

 

Disguised Blessing

I was traveling interstate one day and when I got to the park, I asked a woman if the seat beside her was already occupied by someone or not; I felt that the seat would be a comfortable one for me considering the location. The woman answered me in the affirmative, so I decided to sit on the seat directly behind the one I initially wanted to sit on.

The location of the seat was such that no one could sit down there until the rear seats of the bus were filled, because the people moving to the rear end of the bus had to pass through that place hence the reason I couldn’t tell if someone already picked the seat or not.

I didn’t know that the woman was actually lying (and I still don’t understand why she had to). As I moved to where I finally sat, she then asked if I still wanted to sit beside her but I said, “No”. I had lost interest in sitting there anyway.

By the time someone else sat on that seat, I discovered it had no back rest. Throughout that journey, it was evident how uncomfortable the occupant of that seat was.

As simple as this looks, I could perceive The Holy Spirit ministering to me…

There are things we want badly but don’t end up getting and we waste time mourning our supposed losses when in actual fact it was God at work in our situation to give us a beautiful future.

God sees far beyond what we could ever conceive with our hearts. And because He loves us, he averts the sourness we could have experienced tomorrow by causing some shifts in the physical realm which many times make no sense to us.

You might be wondering why some people are working against you in certain areas of your life.

Maybe your fiance/fiancee called off your relationship or your boss, instead of recommending you for a promotion, recommended your dismissal instead.

It will certainly hurt at first. But you will get to understand the good that comes with the rough package. When that time comes, you will indeed be very grateful that God cleared the way before you without you knowing it.

Don’t fret over the downward tides you are faced with at the moment.

It just might be a blessing in disguise…

. . . A way to redirect you to the path of purpose.

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. (Romans 8:28 NLT)

Be encouraged!

© OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

WHY?

This year is still very young and it is my desire that you live it through to the best of your ability. If you must maximize the blessedness of life in each day, one question that should constantly be on your mind is, “WHY?”

Ask yourself,
“Why am I where I am or in the situation I am in right now?”
“Why should I take this job offer?”
“Why should I spend my savings on this machine?”
“Why should I buy this Aso Ebi?”
“Why should I follow my friend to the Mall?”
“Why should I marry this year?”
“Why should I start a business, or yet another?”
“Why should we have a functional family altar?”
“Why should we move house now?”
“Why should I change Church membership?”

Why? Why? Why?

Providing sincere answers to the ‘why’ question at every point as you journey on will give you clarity and direction.

. . . Here’s the key to you living an intentional life.

Have a great week!

– OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, Ph.D

WHATEVER THE CASE

Reading the book of Philippians this morning brought great encouragement to my heart and I thought to share with you something from my gleanings. . .

In the fourth chapter of that Book, Apostle Paul recounted how he was familiar with living through lack and plenty. He had learnt to manage the high and low moments of life.

Friend, life comes as a total package. This is the truth about life. It will be a form of deception if I told you that you will not run into ditches of your way. Yeah, we pray that the road be smooth but you cannot ascertain what comes with the turns and bends on the way.

I want you to remember every day, as you journey through this year that you may be faced with the good and bad situations of life alike. That’s the reality of life. But also, I want you to remember that you can go through it unscathed.

You can do whatever it is that you have to. Including climbing the mountains and walking through the valley.

. . . Only believe that with God on your side you are victorious. God is God both in the mountains and I’m the valley. Rely on the strength that only Jesus can input in you.

During those moments of lack, insufficiency, betrayal, loss, sorrow, deprivation, etc, just key into Christ’s strength.

Yes, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. And that is because God will not allow any temptation that is beyond what you can take on to come to you.

Whatever the case may be this year, and the rest of your life, know that you have no reason to fall under pressure of negativity (or positivity) as long as you let the everlasting arms of God carry you through. Forget about what you can do or not. Completely rely on God’s strength made available for you.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.

God will be with you in every situation. Don’t ignore His presence. He is interested in every intricate detail of your life.

May The Lord go ahead of you and grant you victory every day!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Whether You Are Caught Or Not

I remember back in high school how some students would take other students’ water in the hostel because there was water scarcity and rejoice that they were able to do so without being caught.

It was called tapping… They would say, “Tapping is a game until you are caught, then it becomes a sin”. It didn’t apply to only water but uniforms, books, pens, and other learning materials.

Does not being caught change the fact that you are a thief? I guess you sure know the answer to that question…

You are cheating on your spouse and because he/she cannot see what you do behind closed doors at your office or know when you are really in Abuja even though you claim to be in Lagos you think you are smart?

Yeah, you might be really good at ‘chopping and cleaning mouth’ but you forget that even though your spouse can’t trace your location and there is no meter to record how many times you have had sex with someone not him/her there is a God Omnipresent who is everywhere at all times and who sees everything that goes on under the sheets.

Some people will even say, “If he is discreet with his cheating, it’s because he respects you”. “Respect my foot”, I say. What form of respect is that by the way, when you are busy playing on your spouse’s intelligence. And worse off is your disrespect for the God of marriage who instituted marriage in the first place and who says that you should stay faithful to your spouse.

Some people will feel like they are smart not knowing they are cursing themselves. They forget God is watching them.

And can you stop saying you were pushed into sinning already? You always have a choice to do the right thing but most times we choose the easy way out.

Sin is sin whether you are caught or not.

You better stop deceiving yourself and repent of your evil ways.

God is watching all of us in 1000D.

Examine your ways!

Brush Swap

 

On Sunday morning, I went to clean the Church and as I swept the floor with the brush it occurred to me that if I turned the brush 180 degrees to the left and tried sweeping with it, it would feel weird in my hands. Aside from that, the brush didn’t seem to catch all the dirt when I used it at that angle. However, once I turned it the other way round, the brush felt sleek in my hands and was very effective in cleaning the floor.

The truth is that that wasn’t the first time I was noticing this about these sweeping brushes; because the brush at home has a similar design. They are designed in such a way that they are bent at an angle. However this time the Holy Spirit had a message for me (who knows maybe this time because I was standing on holy ground 😊).

Isn’t it amazing how God speaks to us through seemingly insignificant things?

I heard in my spirit, “If the ‘brush’ is not sweeping the floors of their life well, they should change its direction or change it all together”.

Here’s the message in this:

If you know that you are not being fed with the undiluted Word of truth at your place of worship, you better look for a place where you can get balanced spiritual food necessary for your spiritual growth.

If all your friends do is rub you on the head or pat you on the back when even you know that you are wrong, it is time for you to change them. Run from those that won’t tell you the truth because they obviously do not love you like they profess.

Have you been trying to achieve a particular thing, using a strategy that is not working? How about you prayerfully change your strategy.

What do you need to change to ensure you get excellent results in your life endeavours?

Could it be your location, job, business strategy of character?

Whatever it is (or they are), make that change now.

No matter how long you have been accustomed to those things or ways, you really have to let them go for your sake. God has our best interest at heart and sometimes he wants us to separate from certain things so that we can have that ‘best’ become our reality.

You need to note at this point that there was only a swap in the direction of the brush. I didn’t throw it away because it wasn’t serving me well at a point. What I want you to get here is that this is no licence for giving up. For instance, you shouldn’t run away from church all together because you are not getting what you need from your current assembly.

May God grant you understanding of these words…

Grace be multiplied unto you!

©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

The Reverse Gear

On a certain morning just a short while ago, I went into the kitchen after our devotion to pack up lunch for everyone. Our daughter came in just a while later and said, “Good morning mum. God bless you in Jesus’ name”. I felt I didn’t hear her well so I asked what she had said and she said to me, “God bless you mum”.

I was stunned to say the least…

The norm was for her to say, “Good morning mum” and I reply with “Good morning darling; God bless you in Jesus name”.

I asked her why she said that and she only told me that she just wanted to bless me too.

Huh?

I wasn’t expecting that at all. And as simple as that may seem, it got branded on my soul.

Did her action touch me in a special way? Of course it did.

There are people who minister to you (spiritually / physically) continually or have done so in the past. . . Right?

Today, take time out to pray for and reach out to such persons letting them know how they are sources of blessings to you and how much you appreciate them. If you feel you should give them something, please do not refrain from giving them that gift. Plan to pay them a visit. Put a call through to them. You wouldn’t know just what those encouraging words could mean to them at this time.

We tend to assume that those ‘up there’ can take care of themselves in all ways.

But the truth is that they feel overwhelmed sometimes too. They suffer lack sometimes too. Because they are human like us too

Move away from the norm today.

They have been the ones blessing you but it’s time for you to bless them back in whatever way you can.

Choose to be a blessing took!

Can I hear the phones ringing?

 

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Living With The End In Mind

 

I have a great desire. . .

. . . To relax with my children, grandchildren and even great grandchildren at the end of my journey on earth and say to them like Apostle Paul said to his son Timothy, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful”. (2 Timothy 4:7)

I have heard stories of people who grow old only to regret not having done certain things they would have loved to do much earlier during their lives.

There is nothing as fulfilling in life as running YOUR race like you should and getting to the finish line without doubt in your heart that you have indeed put in your best and there is nothing more you could have done if you had extra time allotted to you.

This is the way to go guys.

Live each day purposefully and with the intention of ensuring you properly fit in place the day’s piece of your life’s puzzle.

Live each day with the end in view.
Stop procrastinating acting on your visions.



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Increase Your Capacity

The other day, I heard the Holy Spirit minister to my Spirit these words: “Many people pray that God should bless them when they are not ready to take the blessing”

Let me expand this to you:

If blessings or increase happen to an unprepared person, he will definitely fumble because he has not the ability to properly utilize the blessings or manage the increase.

…Some people mess up with their marriages because they are not mature enough for that level of responsibility nor have they developed their ability to relate properly with people around them.

…Some people get hold of power and/or money and practically become terrorists because they are not fit to manage them properly.

… Opportunity for uplifting comes to others and they cannot be considered for them because they are not fully equipped professionally.

When the widow of the prophet in the fourth chapter of the book of second kings ran to Elisha about how she was in debt and the creditor was threatening to take her sons from her, he asked her to go borrow vessels.

She had to prepare the container first. Not until she had done that did the blessing in form of the oil begin to flow.

Even Jabez prayed that God should enlarge his coasts.

This is what I want you to get from this:

You need to build your capacity for the blessing you so desire. In other words, prepare yourself for the height you look forward to; groom yourself for success.

“Enlarge the place of thy tent, and let them stretch forth the curtains of thine habitations: spare not, lengthen thy cords, and strengthen thy stakes” (Isaiah 54:2 KJV)

The New Living Translation puts that same verse this way:

“Enlarge your house; build an addition. Spread out your home, and spare no expense!” (Isaiah 54:2)

When it comes to building your capacity, you must be ready to go to the farthest length and make the greatest form of investment possible.

How can you increase the capacity of your vessel?

Do things that will make you grow in all ramifications.

Here are some examples :

… Eat the Word of God like no man’s business.
… Dedicate time to fellowship with God like never before.
… Read books that will grow your understanding and prepare you for what’s coming in the future.
… Develop strength of character.
… Improve your emotional intelligence.
… Go back to school and get better educated.

… Borrow like that widow if you have to.

Just make sure that you enlarge your vessel. Look inwards and discover in what aspects you need to build your capacity.

“Study to show yourself APPROVED unto God” says Paul to Timothy.

Timothy was admonished to invest in himself so that he could become fit for the height that was prepared for him.

In the case of the widow that I began this post with, the oil ran out immediately there were no more containers.

Some people don’t get their blessings because they don’t have the capacity to hold it in while those who get those ‘blessings’ without being fully able to take them on are those that mess it all up.

I pray that God will grant you deep understanding of these words in Jesus’ name!

Dare Your Fears

Today, I want to share with you two major experiences I have had with FEAR. . .

I had this terrible fear/hatred for dogs that lasted so many years. It all began when I was a young girl. I had lived with a dog owner who treated us (human beings in the house) badly because of his dogs. For instance, he would buy milk for the dog while we didn’t get any to drink. We slept on empty stomachs sometimes when he got angry that we hadn’t fed the dog or given it enough food; because he had thrown our dinner away. It was really awful.

My hatred for that particular dog gradually grew into deep fear for dogs generally.

I literally began to shake when I saw dogs especially if they were not the local Nigerian breed of dogs.

I was really praying that I wouldn’t marry a man who loves dogs. But hey, my wish was not granted.

When I discovered that my husband loves dogs I changed gear for my prayers. I began to pray that he would not think of getting a dog despite his love for them.

I had thought that my prayers were being answered until there was an attempt by burglars to break into our house and boom, my husband decided it was time to get a dog. I hated the idea but I had to let go under the condition that the care of the dog was his sole responsibility.

We were both good with the arrangement until one day…

My husband had travelled and I was wondering how I would handle the dog. We had someone who helped with the dog whenever my husband wasn’t at home but wasn’t going to be available the next day. This person came in the evening to feed the dog and let it out of the cage and the plan was to wait for this person to return late morning to lead it back into it’s cage. This meant that we were going to be stuck in the house until then. However, I woke up the next morning to observe my quiet time. Immediately afterwards, I just told myself, “I can do this. I can lead that dog back in”

Immediately I stepped out through the door, with a rod in hand and it’s food in the other, I saw the dog run away. I was wondering where it had gone. I walked towards the cage and peeped from a distance to see where it was (for fear of it not attacking me from the back) only for me to see it already standing in its cage.

I hadn’t said a word of command to it before it took dressing. Lol

That incidence proved to me that fear is indeed an illusion.

I had a similar experience with driving. I had an accident when I first begun driving several years ago which completely crippled my confidence to drive a car. I refused to drive for so many years.

It was so bad that I would scream at my husband if he drove too fast to let me alight from the car so that he could go and jam the car all by himself. (I am laughing at myself right now)

I would fight my husband whenever he tried to motivate me to try driving again. He tried petting me but it didn’t work. He tried the path of tough love but that didn’t work either. I said he wasn’t patient enough with me.

The truth however is that it was totally my fault that I couldn’t drive.
The culprit was my mind. It was all in my mind that I was going to have an accident if I tried to drive.

It was when we had access to a second car that it occurred to me that my inability to drive was an issue.

I had to wait for my husband to take me wherever I had to go but could not take a bike to. I was a regular bike rider while a car was parked at home. Why? I just couldn’t summon courage to drive

You see, I have killed snakes before. I am a naturally rugged person that dares all sorts. I can face anything and take on any challenge but these two, were big issues for me. My friends called me fearless (well now I believe I FULLY am). Many of them ask me if there was anything I couldn’t do. Let me not bore you with the list of things I have tried in this life.

My decision to break the jinx was spontaneous. I just woke up one day and started driving again. I was always chanting the thirteenth verse of the fourth chapter of the book of Philippians (I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me) when I first set out to dare my fears. And God has been faithful to His Words.

I have so many stories to tell about me being faced with fear. It’s just that I found it more difficult to conquer these two.

Fear respects no one, I tell you.

It will raise its ugly head anytime you try to embark on any path that leads to greatness.

Face your fears squarely.

Stop allowing fear cripple your visions.

Let your fear become afraid of you.

…It’s either you scare your fears or your fears scare you from achieving greatness.

It’s really left to you to decide who or what wins.

Forget about the negative ‘what ifs’ and charge forward towards greatness not minding the scary thoughts.

Great people do not settle for the easy way out. Fear makes you cower and run from taking risks.

Pursue your dreams…

Live your life fully…

Receive strength to forge ahead without fear!

©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

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