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Seek Forgiveness. . . Even If You Don’t Feel Like It

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Forgiveness is a necessary part of life, for the simple reason that “we all stumble in many things” (James 3:2).

When Jacob died, all of Joseph’s older brothers approached him with the plea to forgive their wicked treatment of him so many years before- even though Joseph had long forgiven them. They wanted to be sure.

In a similar way, without the cleansing power of forgiveness, at best marriage will be very hard duty. At worst it will be a disaster. No matter how hard two people try to love and please each other continuously, they will fail.

With failure comes hurt- and the ultimate relief for hurt is the soothing salve of forgiveness.

The key to maintaining an open, intimate, and happy marriage is to ask for and grant forgiveness quickly.

About the process of forgiveness, Jesus said,

“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matt. 6:14-15).

His instruction is clear: God insists that we are to be forgivers, and marriage- probably more than any other relationship- presents frequent opportunities to practice.

To forgive means to give up resentment against or relinquish the desire to punish. By an act of your will, you let the person off the hook.

As a Christian, you do not do this under duress, scratching and screaming in protest.

Rather, you do it with a gentle spirit and love, as Paul urged,

Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another even as God in Christ forgave you” (Eph. 4:32).

The real test of your ability to forgive comes on the battlefield when you and your spouse are ticked off and angry with each other.

That is when you need the power of the Holy Spirit and must ask, “God, please help me here. I need to move to forgiveness, because You have commanded me to do so. Please empower me and enable me to give up the right I think I have to punish my spouse and to forgive”.

This takes practice. You need to learn how to keep your relationship healthy by not burning excessive emotional energy on resentment. Grant forgiveness and ask for it freely- even when you don’t feel like it.


Unthankfully Ungrateful

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Photo credit: Gofamintmushin

An elderly friend told me recently about how someone she had helped so much (at least as much as she could have afforded to) just suddenly began to behave towards her like she had done nothing at all for him. She heard from a source that he complained that she could have done much more for him than she had done. And that really hurt her.

She had taken this guy in like a son from their church when he had newly relocated from his village (which happens to be hers too) to the town where she resides, to resume school. Even though she doesn’t know his family. She paid his school fees throughout his stay in the higher institution. His grandmother who had been taking care of him since his parents died couldn’t afford to pay the bills so she volunteered to do it.

Now, this woman is a widow. She has children of her own that she has to pay their way through school too. And it’s not like she is ‘wealthy’. She is actually a salary earner. She just has a giving and compassionate heart. She did all she did out of inconvenience to herself and her immediate family.

So for that guy to be complaining is what I don’t get. . . But I feel her pains.

I have had my own experiences too with ungrateful people.

One characteristic of ungrateful people that I have come to identify is that they don’t remember to contact you unless they need you to solve their problems. You only hear from them when they need to collect something from you again.

And is this not how many of us behave towards God?

We think what He has done for us is too little to accord Him “all that praise”.

We forget too quickly what has been done unto us.

We tell ourselves, “What’s the fuss all about? He could ONLY give me fifty thousand naira. Aren’t there people who give their servants landed properties as giveaways?”

I guess the problem is that many of us have the “entitlement syndrome”.

We believe that we deserve the blessings we receive.

Well sorry, that is a very wrong mentality.

Whether it’s your parents, friends, relatives or God, whatever you are given is given you out of their benevolence. It is a privilege to have received what you have received from them.

Now, you should be grateful for that.

Whether it looks “big” or “small” according to your books, remember they could have decided not to give you anything at all.

I encourage you to be grateful for every minute blessing you receive.

If you need to make a list of those that have been good to you in the past, please do. And remember to tell them you appreciate what they did for you.

As you plan to do that for the people you can see, make a list of the good things God has done for you and thank Him for them.

Learn from the Psalmist and make positive changes in your outlook to life.

. . . Never let any good deed pass without you giving due thanks for it.

. . . Never think lightly of any blessing.

God bless you!

-OMOSEBI Mary Omolola (PhD)
© 2016

Proclaim a Solemn Assembly

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Photo credit: Walton Parish

An invasion devastated ancient Judah, leaving the people plundered and vulnerable. The Prophet Joel likened the invasion to that of an army, a ruinous force of swarming locusts.

We too, have been invaded by a cloud of locusts. Eating deep into our lives and homes.

We have people suffering from hunger and inadequate care because of the economic situation of the land.

Many families feel overrun by evil. . . Evil of adultery, pornography, domestic violence, divorce, etc.

“They run to and fro in the city, they run on the wall; they climb into the houses, they enter at the windows like a thief” (Amos 2:9).

There is unrest and lack of joy in many homes and the nation at large.

Like Judah, we have been laid waste. And the prophet’s solution for them still works for the Church:

“Consecrate a fast, call a sacred assembly; gather. . . all the inhabitants into the house of the Lord!” (Amos 1:4)

It’s time to declare a solemn assembly and cry out for God to exterminate the locusts in our land and homes.

Perhaps God will withdraw His judgement and grant us favour in battle.

Perhaps God will bring healing to the walking-wounded generation of divorce and restore the years the locusts have eaten (Amos 2:20-25.

God has promised us deliverance:

Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land. (2 Chronicles 7:14 NLT)

Arise my people!

Call on your friends, family members and congregation to arise too.

Let’s humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God.

Let’s turn away from our ungodly ways.

Let’s cry unto God for mercy upon our homes and land.

All will be well by God’s grace!

-OMOSEBI Mary Omolola (PhD)
© 2016

Heart Temperature

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Photo credit :UQ

I am especially challenged about the temperature of my own heart whenever I consider the words of Jesus in Revelation 3:15-16:

“I know all the things you do, that you are neither hot nor cold. I wish that you were one or the other! But since you are like lukewarm water, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth!”

Think about these chilling facts:

To be cold-hearted means to be decidedly below normal; to be unemotional, unaware, unconscious of God! Imagine being unemotional about the things of God!

And then there’s the lukewarm heart. It’s only moderately warm; it’s indifferent! Imagine being indifferent toward God.

Hot- the third option- is where we want to be. Having a high temperature; characterized by violent activity, emotion, or passion; fiery; excited- now that’s the heart of someone committed to God!

Our heart for God should be like a boiling pot. Our heart should be characterized by God-given and intense emotion and passion for our Lord. After all, when a teakettle is boiling on your stove, you know it. It sputters and steams. It actually hops up and down and jiggles from side to side, empowered by it’s violent heat. Hot to touch, it shares the heat that is within. There is no way to ignore its fire. Likewise, we should be fiery and excited about God, and God Himself will fuel that fire.

That’s what I want for you- and for myself! I want Jesus’ presence in our lives to make a difference. I want our lips to speak of the great things He has done for us (Luke 1:49), to tell of His wonders (Psalm 96:3). “Let the redeemed of the Lord say so” (Psalm 107:2)!

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Photo credit: therapearl

My dear sister/brother, how would you rate your heart condition? I pray that you have given your heart to Jesus Christ, that you have entered into an eternal relationship with God through His Son Jesus. If you have, thank Him for the wonderful privilege of being called a child of God!

If you are unsure about where you stand with God or if you know quite clearly that you are living your life apart from God, confess your sin, invite Jesus to be your Saviour, and by so, welcome Christ into your life and become a new creature in Him (2Corinthians 5:17).

Your prayer might go something like this:

“God, I want to be Your child. I want to live my life in You and through You, and for You. I acknowledge my sin and receive Your Son, Jesus Christ, into my needy heart, giving thanks that He died on the cross for my sins. Thank You for giving me strength so that I can follow after Your heart.”

Again, open up your heart, invite Jesus in, and let Him make you what He desires.

Now you can begin- or begin anew- to put yourself in a position where God can grow in you a heart of devotion. Our goal is to have no will but His will! Right now utter a prayer for more heat!

-OMOSEBI Mary Omolola (PhD)
© 2016

With A Grateful Heart

Omosebi Mary Omolola

I had to embark on a journey to get a document some days back and that day was a remarkable and humbling one for me.

I was able to fill all the necessary forms at the office and by the time I was through with the processing, I received a not too pleasant information. I was told that the document wasn’t going to be ready for several weeks. I was like, “what”? This was not the first time I would apply for this kind of document and it always took just 2-3days. “Change had changed this too?” I asked playfully.

Anyway, I resigned to fate and left the office. As I got to the junction and waited for a cab, I noticed a woman standing by the door of a car parked right at the junction looking at me.

I felt it weird that someone was gazing at me that much. At first, I felt I was imagining things but after a few seconds, I was certain that my mind wasn’t playing games with me. I saw what I saw.

Instead of waiting for a cab, I hopped on a bike almost immediately. I just wanted to leave that place as soon as possible.

However, immediately I sat on the bike, I felt that I should have just walked up to the person to ask what the issue was but I waved it off.

I stopped the bike man at the next junction. I decided to wait for a cab right there.

Lo and behold, the same car that I had seen earlier parked right beside me.

The first thing that crossed my mind was to say to myself, “Blood of Jesus”.

There were two women in the car. The older woman was the one driving. She called out to me and I looked into the car. I saw that the face was unfamiliar but then I said, “Good afternoon”.

“Please, are you Mrs Omolola Omosebi?” She asked.

I paused for a few seconds trying to see if I could place a finger on where I knew her from before answering in the affirmative.

She exclaimed and told the other woman, “You see. I told you it looked like the person in the photo.”

She then faced me and told me her name. She said she quickly logged into her Facebook account to check my profile when she first saw me stand at the other junction and that was why she kept looking at me there.

She then asked if I stayed in that city to which I answered, “No”. She asked me what I had come to do then. I explained to her and when she heard me say that the document I had come for was going to take weeks, she looked concerned. Immediately, she put a call through to someone who worked at the office I had been to earlier and she arranged with the woman to fast track the process to just a few days. She even volunteered to pay any extra charges but the woman said there would be no need for that.

She took me in her car and dropped me at my next stop which was at an opposite end from where she was going initially.

On the journey, she told me how she is a silent follower of my posts and how much she is being blessed by them. We exchanged contacts and she even said that her home was open to me any time I was in town and needed to sleep over. She treated me really kindly and like a celebrity.

I am totally humbled by what happened that day. That’s just how I feel- humbled.

I appreciate God for the precious gift he has deposited inside me. What a great privilege to be seen worthy of such treasure.

I thank Jesus for the grace to put it to use. He called me and I am so grateful for that.

I thank the Holy Spirit my Teacher. His anointing upon the ministrations make all the difference. I am but just a vessel. I acknowledge the One at work in and through me.

I appreciate all those who have invested in me knowingly and unknowingly.

God bless you real good Mrs O.A. To extend that much kindness to someone you never met is adorable. It didn’t even feel like we hadn’t known each other prior that day.

I also want to use this opportunity to appreciate all those who read my writings. I appreciate the active and passive followers. I appreciate the feedbacks publicly and privately. God bless you all.

Before I end this, I want to encourage you to trade diligently with whatever talents God has invested in you.

Shine that little light of yours in that little corner of yours.

You’ll never know what access or doors those gifts will open for you.

-OMOSEBI Mary Omolola (PhD)
© 2016

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