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Book Excerpts: Raising Sexually Pure Children

If we will be true to ourselves we will see how much of a herculean task it is to raise sexually pure children in this time and age.
It is rather sad that so much is happening in our world today which indicates that the environmental conditions are just not too favourable. We hear stories of children being molested virtually every day by people who are meant to take care of them.

This is a call for concern. It is a situation that should make us “be at attention” as parents.
The truth is that things that many people my age did not get to hear/know about when we were in our early teenage years are things that some infants are exposed to today.
The peculiarity of this generation makes things like discussing the topic of this book like I am now, something that we cannot afford to take with levity.

Our children will have to relate with other people at one point or the other in their lives no matter how much we try to shield them from the world. We cannot be with them every second of the day hence the need to equip them adequately because we do not have control over what goes on with those other people that they get to relate with most especially when they are not under our watch. Now, that’s the real deal in this matter.
The truth is that many parents shy away from teaching their children about sex. In this generation however, we need to be wary of making the same mistakes some of our own parents made.
No one is saying you should teach them how to have sex.

Sex education is about equipping your children/teenagers with age appropriate knowledge about sex/sexuality.
It is primarily the duty of parents to equip their children with knowledge pertaining to sex and sexuality. It is not advisable to delegate these teachings to the media or other people generally. If you don’t want them to inculcate wrong ideas from unverified sources, you better do the needful.
They will get to know about these things whether you teach them or not anyway.
It is therefore imperative, following the dynamics of this generation not to be “slow” with passing on required knowledge about sex to your children.

Another very important thing is for parents to truly love and care for their children.
I remember how back in the day, my mother would buy assorted stuff out of her meagre salary any time she could and share amongst my siblings and I. She would tell us things like, “You can’t say that you don’t know what corned beef or cheese, etc tastes like…” She would say to us that she didn’t want us to get out of the home and start feeling like anything was a big deal. She would take us to parks for picnics and those memories are stuck in my mental faculty. It was as though she had planned to do something different for us once she got her salary every month.
I tell you, this act moulded my mentality. Yes, I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth but nothing ever felt like a big deal to me.

So even when I got into the university and eateries were getting common (with which a number of girls were enticed), it was still no big deal for me even though I had not been in one at that time.
I will like to add at this point that you should not forget to teach your children about contentment too.
This is very important because if they refuse to learn how to be contented with whatever they have, they stand at a risk of being enticed with gifts from potential predators no matter what you provide for them.
Love your children in words and actions. Be sure to tell your children that you love them. Embrace them lovingly. Fill their love-tanks with loving words and actions constantly. This will boost their self-esteem and in turn help them not to go on with their lives being needy for affection.

When they are convinced of the fact that you love them, no one will be able to deceive them with some fake love somewhere.

You really need to be your child’s best friend. Your child should be able to trust you and feel free to talk to you about anything and everything. They should be able to discuss with you as friend with friend. It is therefore imperative that you develop a good rapport with your children.

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Please, How Do You Do It?

There is something I need your help explaining to me… This is an issue that I have always wondered about. I have had several reasons to wonder how two things that seem to be incompatible can be exhibited in the very same space.

A Nollywood movie I watched a few days ago actually brought this issue back to mind and I knew it was time I spoke about my worries thus the conception of this post.

In that movie, there was this guy who deprived his wife of sex for about 3 months or more after the wedding. I mean from day one… No honeymoon things.

His commonest excuse was that they needed to pray. It was either that he just had a nightmare when the wife makes advances at him or that he was observing lent in August. Even on their wedding night, it was prayer that they prayed till they both slept off and I was like, “Are you kidding me?”

The wife kept suffering in silence. She was deeply frustrated.

To cut the long story short, he kept using the issue of prayer to camouflage his obvious purpose of punishing his wife.

Now, this was the real issue which he refused to reveal until after the lady attempted suicide:

The wife had stolen money from the husband’s late brother (whom she worked with as a secretary) which she gave this same man to travel out of the country with. It was during the period when they were out of the country that the elder brother died from a stroke linked to the money which was stolen from him; when he couldn’t resuscitate his business or make ends meet.

He had later sponsored the lady to join him overseas and returned to the country together for their wedding. Upon their return, the man took his fiancee to meet his sister-in-law and that was when he got to know about what had transpired between his wife-to-be and elder brother.

So, instead of confronting the lady or calling off the wedding he went ahead to marry her with the intention of punishing her.

Did I mention that while the wife from suffering from deprivation, this man had a side-chic that was performing his wife’s conjugal duties?

What am I driving at with my narration?

I have seen people who profess to be believers and sometimes can pray like fire would descend right there in their prayer rooms act terribly towards people around them.

I have seen pastors who are skilled in dividing the Word of truth beat their wives blue-black upon every slight provocation.

I have seen tongue-talking, fire spitting believers rob their bosses or involved in fraudulent activities at their places of work.

And all I can ask within myself is, “How do they do it?”

How do you harbour sin yet are able to pray?

How do you keep malice and are still able to raise ‘holy hands’ to the Lord?

How are you able to steal money and yet bring the tithe to church?

How do you abuse your spouse physically or emotionally and still be able to stand before the congregation of the righteous with your hypocritical smiles?

How do you call yourself a child of God and still act like that of the devil?

How can light and darkness live in the same vessel at the same time?

…Because the Holy Spirit I know will always call you out when you are out of line.

Something must definitely be wrong somewhere then, I conclude…

Either you are not born again in the first instance or you have decided to continually ignore the voice of the Holy Spirit to you.

This is a call to you reading this to examine your ways.

Check where you have fallen from and make amends. Allow yourself to be thoroughly broken down, have a circumcised heart which is sensitive to the voice of the Holy Spirit and decide to begin to obey Him always.

May your eyes be opened to those areas of your life that are not conforming to the standards of the Word of God.

And may grace be multiplied unto you as you decide to repent of your ungodly ways!

©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola

 

Teaching Your Child About Wins and Losses

 

 

Some weeks ago, one of the mummies I met on Facebook who is a proprietress contacted me to ask for permission to publish one of my articles in the school’s magazine (You can read the article HERE)

Coincidentally, just a few weeks after that I was in a secondary school to fellowship with the students on a Sunday morning. One of the girls that asked to speak with me after the ministration told me how sad she was. She said she had low self-esteem (her words). She told me that her classmates make fun of her because she was poor with spellings. Amazingly, this same girl was the class monitor for her class. And I sure know they don’t make dullards class monitors. She was good with other things in school but a singular weakness was greatly capitalized on.

I did all I could to encourage her to believe in herself and never to think of herself as a failure. I told her to focus on her strengths too. I made her realize that even if she came last in class, it still didn’t make her a failure. It just tells her that she needs to put in more effort.

Gladly, she left feeling relieved.

You see, parents have a lot to do with instilling the right attitude in their children.

Parents need to show their children the right lens through which they should view life. We need to make them realise that they are wonderfully and fearfully made by God and that they are not less human because they are not performing as well as their counterparts.

In the same vein, they need to learn never to look down on anyone because they seem to be doing better than they are.

Teach them what success really means. Real success is not earned by comparing your achievements with others. It is all about fulfilling God’s purpose for you. You’re a success when you live up to God’s expectations of you; not man’s.

They should strive for excellence in being the best version of themselves and not wanting to be someone else. They can learn excellent virtues from others. And there is nothing bad in them allowing themselves to be motivated by the successes of others.

However, they must be trained never to lose their identity while in the pursuance of excellence. They need to embrace and appreciate their uniqueness.

When they ‘win’, they must thank God for the grace to win.

And when they ‘lose’, let them embrace their loss with dignity as they believe that it can only get better with the help of God and due diligence.

May God bless our children!

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Cultivate Your Garden

The newest addition to my library

About 20years ago, our youth fellowship president who doubled as my school father asked me a question which was brought to my remembrance recently. He asked me who my role model was in ministry and without thinking twice on that particular day I said, “JOYCE MEYER”.

I love Joyce Meyer. She is an awesome woman. A teacher and she also serves in the help ministry. She has a message for women. Same with T.D. Jakes. These are the major areas I see God nudging me towards so I concentrate my efforts on being equipped to take it on.

I don’t live where they live so I do something to get impacted by them.

…. I stock my library with their books.

I read them.

I pay to gain knowledge from them.

I would rather buy books than fill my closet with clothes and shoes.

One thing that endears me to my mentees who are closest to me is that they love books. That attitude is a magnet between me and them.

You see, purposeful people never stop tilling their ground and tending their garden. They identify what’s important and focus on that. They water the ground and fertilize it with resources that will enrich it and in turn lead to a bumper harvest.

God has placed you in a garden like He did Adam so that you can till it. That garden is your place of purpose.

The law of sowing and reaping is so real. If you invest in your calling, you are bound to excel therein according to your Maker’s standards and if otherwise the obvious.

I keep going on and on about being intentional because it’s the path I have chosen for myself and I desire above many things that you will take this route too. (I did a video on the subject matter and you can watch it HERE

Life is too short to go about it unintentionally.

Take charge of your life.

Invest in things that matter.

Feed your passion.

I can tell you firsthand that only when you live your life purposefully can you have a sense of fulfillment deep within.

“Why spend your money on food that does not give you strength? Why pay for food that does you no good? Listen to me, and you will eat what is good. You will enjoy the finest food.” (Isaiah 55:2)

Purpose is calling on you to give it attention instead of things that will not satisfy you which you are busy investing in.

… Felt strongly to charge you thus today.

I hope you get the message and take action in the right direction from today henceforth . . .

Be blessed!

©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

Raising Sexually Pure Children – Free eBook

 

I am giving out my Book, Raising Sexually Pure Children FREE.

This book is a must read for all parents and parents-to-be. I believe this is an important tool that will equip you to raise sexually pure children in this age and time of sexual pervasion.

There’s been about 500 downloads of this book and I have received several amazing feedbacks.



 

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT THIS BOOK 


You did a great job. It is a compact, tightly wound piece of spiritual and temporal energy, pocket size, but with far reaching power, because it is also quite simple.
-Yemi Adedeji



I just finished reading this book. Indeed I was highly blessed and I recommend it for every parent or parent to be. I wish you more divine inspiration and insight. God bless you.
– Abimbola Osagie



I just read your book on raising sexually pure children.  I must commend your efforts.  I was really blessed and enlightened. . .  I am really grateful you wrote that, God bless you!
-Damilola Arowolo


I’m not a mum yet, but I’m glad I read the book. It touched areas most parents or guides shy away from, it was as transparent as possible leaving no stone unturned, because we have no choice o than to raise Godly offspring. Children who would understand, that despite the fact they live in this world of sin, they mustn’t be part of it; rather stand chaste and be firm about it.

It’s a book I’ll recommend to anyone, not even just parents. As singles, it’s good we start preparing for what lies ahead of us.

May the good Lord continue to fill you ma’am with His divine wisdom, and guide you accordingly.
-Ekanem Cynthia



Just took time to read the book and I find it quite informative and educative. It’s not voluminous nor boring. It’s practical in every sense of it. Well-done ma.
-Kemi Akereyeni



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Upgrade!

I started out with a Nokia 3310 back in the day. I have however used several brands (Motorola, Sony Ericsson, Blackberry, IPhone, etc) of phones after my first phone.

With each new phone being better than the previous one in terms of functions and general appeal.

Just imagine me still using the Nokia 3310 I used over twelve years ago today; in 2017.

…You must be looking at me with the side-eye right now.

The truth is that some of us are just like stagnant water.

It has been the same way with you since you were wise enough to know wrong from right.

You keep saying that you want to keep doing things today like it was done in 1922.

I remember my Android phone misbehaving at a point and I just didn’t understand what was going on with it. I complained to my husband and then he asked me when last I updated the apps and I just told him I couldn’t remember.

The truth is that I had been receiving notifications about available phone /app updates but I had ignored every single one.

Immediately I did the upgrades, my phone was up and running again.

When last did you run a system update on your spirit?

When last did you buy a book to nourish your spirit?

When last did you have a retreat solely to spend quality time with God?

When last did you even ask God about what he was saying “today”; forgetting that God is dynamic.

Upgrade your spiritual software dear brother/sister.

Even the devil keeps updating his schemes and styles.

You can’t operate on the level you did 10years ago.

May God grant you full understanding of this matter and help you to carry out the necessary upgrade to your outdated spiritual software in Jesus’ name.

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Help! It’s a Dead-end

 

I was opportune to minister to a group of students over the weekend. One of the students approached me for counseling after the ministration and she told me she had given up on the issue she was about to talk to me about but that she just felt moved to talk to me about it anyway.

Thank God she decided to open up to me and I trust God that there will be a testimony from her end.

That incidence quickly reminded me about this special message I have for you…

You see, sometimes we get to a place where we feel it is the end of the road for us; a place where we just can’t see any ray of light at the end of the tunnel.

At these times, what do you do?

I have a video message for you in which you will find out what to do at those times. (The video was recorded live in the Beautiful Branches Facebook group).

Remember to share this with your friends; you wouldn’t know which of them thinks he/she has reached a dead-end.

Be blessed!

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