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False Health

 

During the course of my first year in the university, I fell ill and some of my roommates ‘dragged’ me to the University Health Centre for treatment (I didn’t want to go there).

I was told that I was down with malaria and was given some injections and because I had an exam the next day, I requested to be allowed to return to my hostel immediately and I was obliged.

How can I forget the speed with which I walked or was it ran till I got close to the hostel? Those who went with me had to run after me. The ailing one seemed to have more energy than those who were physically fine at the time. My roommates thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t even walk without help to the health center.

A few meters to my hostel, I sat into a culvert totally exhausted. I could not move again at that point. My friends caught up with me, panting from the compulsory exercise I had forced them to go through and they practically carried me to my bed in the hostel.

I remembered this incidence a while ago and I thought to share some lessons that were impressed on my heart as I smiled away, remembering that incidence…

There are two lessons…

  1. There are some people who go around doing “exploits” yet are totally void of any inner strength. Empty barrels they say, make the loudest noise. It is such an unwise thing to focus on expending energy probably because you wish to keep up appearances while you refuse to recharge as frequently as you should. While you help others out of their low estate, make sure that you take time out to focus on yourself too. Take cognisance of when you begin to run your life on reserve. Better still, make it a continuous/constant action to take time out for refreshing yourself. Else you reach a point in life where you have the appearance of being alive when you are actually completely dead and dry within.

  2. Don’t wear yourself out. Just like I expended all my energy because of the brisk action I had taken by running when it was evident that I wasn’t capable of doing so, you would wear yourself out if you are biting more than you can chew. You need to understand your capacity and walk within those limits. It is not about the quantity of work you put into life but the quality thereof. It has to be value over volume.

Got it?

  • OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD


P. S. Wanna share something impressed on your heart from this story? Feel free to share in the comment section below.

Whether You Are Caught Or Not

I remember back in high school how some students would take other students’ water in the hostel because there was water scarcity and rejoice that they were able to do so without being caught.

It was called tapping… They would say, “Tapping is a game until you are caught, then it becomes a sin”. It didn’t apply to only water but uniforms, books, pens, and other learning materials.

Does not being caught change the fact that you are a thief? I guess you sure know the answer to that question…

You are cheating on your spouse and because he/she cannot see what you do behind closed doors at your office or know when you are really in Abuja even though you claim to be in Lagos you think you are smart?

Yeah, you might be really good at ‘chopping and cleaning mouth’ but you forget that even though your spouse can’t trace your location and there is no meter to record how many times you have had sex with someone not him/her there is a God Omnipresent who is everywhere at all times and who sees everything that goes on under the sheets.

Some people will even say, “If he is discreet with his cheating, it’s because he respects you”. “Respect my foot”, I say. What form of respect is that by the way, when you are busy playing on your spouse’s intelligence. And worse off is your disrespect for the God of marriage who instituted marriage in the first place and who says that you should stay faithful to your spouse.

Some people will feel like they are smart not knowing they are cursing themselves. They forget God is watching them.

And can you stop saying you were pushed into sinning already? You always have a choice to do the right thing but most times we choose the easy way out.

Sin is sin whether you are caught or not.

You better stop deceiving yourself and repent of your evil ways.

God is watching all of us in 1000D.

Examine your ways!

I Remember When I Was An Honourable

I want to share a part of my life that I remembered few days ago and which left me reeling with laughter; and thoughtful after my laughter session.

I am actually thinking that I should be referred to as Honourable Omolola yet againšŸ˜

For real, I was an honourable back during my University days.

You don’t believe me?

OK. Let me gist you…

My school mummy, big sister and dear friend Saytee was the honourable representing our constituency until it was time for her to graduate. At the time, I was in my fourth year and had a little above one year left as an undergrad.

She walked up to me on a certain afternoon and informed me about her intention of nominating me as the representative of our constituency at the student union. Under that jurisdiction were a number of privately owned hostels just outside the school as it so happened that the university was non-residential. I asked her what was expected of me if I agreed to her proposal and she told me it wasn’t anything tasking. Besides, she believed strongly that I was the right fit for the office (I still don’t get why she chose me though). Anyway, I agreed. And I was given a letter of appointment to that effect.

The first house sitting started out on a very annoying note for me. The sitting never started until about four hours behind schedule… Proper Nigerian time saga which I have hated practically all my life.

Well I calmed down and then the movie series began. It was like the behind the scenes of a season film… Everything was unfiltered. I mean, that day was something else.

At first, I was fascinated by the proceedings and all; you know the formalities. . .

Suddenly, upon raising a particular issue, the hall gradually became rowdy. The clerk kept shouting, “Decorum!” like he was being paid to do so but people won’t hear it.

I felt like fish out of water. It all looked strange to me. Me, gentle sister of the Most High never knew that was what I signed up for. I naturally hate confrontation and fighting.

If not that the chairs in the lecture hall where we met were designed in such a way that they were connected to the tables and subsequently firmly screwed to the ground, only God knows how many heads would have gotten broken that day.

It got to a point that I had to hide under the table for fear of being injured.

Later, someone stood up from his seat far behind the hall and ran to the front; jumping over tables and grabbed the mace and fled out through the door. Ghenghen! Some people ran after him and that was how the whole thing scattered o.

I quickly picked my belongings and made for the door at the back of the hall. I didn’t stop jogging until I got to my hall of residence. It is not easy o.

Kai. How come I don’t remember this everyday sef?

Anyway, do you see that our issues in this country no be today?

It was at that period I decided that I would NEVER run for such posts that will give me High Blood Pressure in my lifetime.

Maybe if it is a post by appointment I might agree to it; if God wills. But other than that, count me out please.

I learnt some lessons from that phase of my life anyway…

  1. Don’t take up appointments (jobs, marriage partners, business partners etc) just for the sake of it. If you know your life’s purpose is not in line with it don’t even start what you won’t be able to finish. Life decisions shouldn’t be made based on impulse. It is important that you know where you are going in life and maintain your lane.

  2. I kinda liked being called an honourable but there is nothing more honourable for you than being genuinely satisfied deep within with what you are doing. There is more to life than fame, money etc. In short seek to fulfill purpose above all else.

  3. People don’t usually SUDDENLY become ‘bad’. It usually is a gradual process developing negative attitudes. Make sure to curb all excesses of your children right on time before they become “dried fish” that become difficult to remould.

  4. Well meaning family/friends may have ideas for your life’s movement but it is left to you not to leave the reins of your life in their hands. It’s your life and you will be held accountable for how you live it and the decisions you make.

  5. It is never too late to take a redress. Once you find out that you are in the wrong waters, swim out. Actually that was the first and last house sitting I attended.

Afterwards, I focused my energy more on things that resonated with my spirit instead.

By the way, a new session of my writing course commences on 5th November 2017. You can find information about the course / registerĀ HERE

I am OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD…

I rise!

P. S. Please feel free to share any other lessons that you can draw out from this story in the comment section.

Brush Swap

 

On Sunday morning, I went to clean the Church and as I swept the floor with the brush it occurred to me that if I turned the brush 180 degrees to the left and tried sweeping with it, it would feel weird in my hands. Aside from that, the brush didn’t seem to catch all the dirt when I used it at that angle. However, once I turned it the other way round, the brush felt sleek in my hands and was very effective in cleaning the floor.

The truth is that that wasn’t the first time I was noticing this about these sweeping brushes; because the brush at home has a similar design. They are designed in such a way that they are bent at an angle. However this time the Holy Spirit had a message for me (who knows maybe this time because I was standing on holy ground šŸ˜Š).

Isn’t it amazing how God speaks to us through seemingly insignificant things?

I heard in my spirit, “If the ‘brush’ is not sweeping the floors of their life well, they should change its direction or change it all together”.

Here’s the message in this:

If you know that you are not being fed with the undiluted Word of truth at your place of worship, you better look for a place where you can get balanced spiritual food necessary for your spiritual growth.

If all your friends do is rub you on the head or pat you on the back when even you know that you are wrong, it is time for you to change them. Run from those that won’t tell you the truth because they obviously do not love you like they profess.

Have you been trying to achieve a particular thing, using a strategy that is not working? How about you prayerfully change your strategy.

What do you need to change to ensure you get excellent results in your life endeavours?

Could it be your location, job, business strategy of character?

Whatever it is (or they are), make that change now.

No matter how long you have been accustomed to those things or ways, you really have to let them go for your sake. God has our best interest at heart and sometimes he wants us to separate from certain things so that we can have that ‘best’ become our reality.

You need to note at this point that there was only a swap in the direction of the brush. I didn’t throw it away because it wasn’t serving me well at a point. What I want you to get here is that this is no licence for giving up. For instance, you shouldn’t run away from church all together because you are not getting what you need from your current assembly.

May God grant you understanding of these words…

Grace be multiplied unto you!

Ā©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

BEYOND THE SURFACE


 

I was scrolling through Facebook News feed a while ago when I came across the beautiful picture of a beautiful woman, posted by one of my friends from way back. The picture had no caption and I had almost clicked on the LIKE button when I decided to read through the comments section first.

The comments all implied that the person in the picture had passed away because they were condolence messages to the person who had put up the post. I thought to myself what it would have meant for me to just have clicked the like or love button… Would it have meant that I loved that the person was bereaved or what exactly?????

You see, there is usually more to people than we can all see.

No one goes around with a ‘caption’ to his/her head announcing the struggles he/she is passing through in closet.

And this is reason I like to sometimes make excuses for people who act badly towards me. I am usually of the opinion that they might be dealing with some really tough situations hence their reactions.

They usually say that “First impressions last forever”. That could be true. But should we really judge people based on the first impressions only? I really do not think so. What if that first impression is induced by some nasty things they are going through at the moment?

In any case, this is my heart going out to everyone fighting a “private” battle. You know where and how much it hurts.

I can’t categorically say that i understand what you are going through. But my heart prays for you.

God sees your “midnight cries”. He knows the depth of your hurt/struggles and He is right there with you. He will never leave or forsake you.

He will come through for you at just the time He knows is just perfect.

If He is letting you go through what you are now, He will definitely bring you through it. And you will arrive safely at the other end of that river.

Cast all your cares on Him for He cares for you!

May the peace of God that passes all human reasoning be your portion Now and forever!

Ā© OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

The Reverse Gear

On a certain morning just a short while ago, I went into the kitchen after our devotion to pack up lunch for everyone. Our daughter came in just a while later and said, “Good morning mum. God bless you in Jesus’ name”. I felt I didn’t hear her well so I asked what she had said and she said to me, “God bless you mum”.

I was stunned to say the least…

The norm was for her to say, “Good morning mum” and I reply with “Good morning darling; God bless you in Jesus name”.

I asked her why she said that and she only told me that she just wanted to bless me too.

Huh?

I wasn’t expecting that at all. And as simple as that may seem, it got branded on my soul.

Did her action touch me in a special way? Of course it did.

There are people who minister to you (spiritually / physically) continually or have done so in the past. . . Right?

Today, take time out to pray for and reach out to such persons letting them know how they are sources of blessings to you and how much you appreciate them. If you feel you should give them something, please do not refrain from giving them that gift. Plan to pay them a visit.Ā Put a call through to them. You wouldn’t know just what those encouraging words could mean to them at this time.

We tend to assume that those ‘up there’ can take care of themselves in all ways.

But the truth is that they feel overwhelmed sometimes too. They suffer lack sometimes too. Because they are human like us too

Move away from the norm today.

They have been the ones blessing you but it’s time for you to bless them back in whatever way you can.

Choose to be a blessing took!

Can I hear the phones ringing?

 

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Living With The End In Mind

 

I have a great desire. . .

. . . To relax with my children, grandchildren and even great grandchildren at the end of my journey on earth and say to them like Apostle Paul said to his son Timothy, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful”. (2 Timothy 4:7)

I have heard stories of people who grow old only to regret not having done certain things they would have loved to do much earlier during their lives.

There is nothing as fulfilling in life as running YOUR race like you should and getting to the finish line without doubt in your heart that you have indeed put in your best and there is nothing more you could have done if you had extra time allotted to you.

This is the way to go guys.

Live each day purposefully and with the intention of ensuring you properly fit in place the day’s piece of your life’s puzzle.

Live each day with the end in view.
Stop procrastinating acting on your visions.



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Increase Your Capacity

The other day, I heard the Holy Spirit minister to my Spirit these words: “Many people pray that God should bless them when they are not ready to take the blessing”

Let me expand this to you:

If blessings or increase happen to an unprepared person, he will definitely fumble because he has not the ability to properly utilize the blessings or manage the increase.

…Some people mess up with their marriages because they are not mature enough for that level of responsibility nor have they developed their ability to relate properly with people around them.

…Some people get hold of power and/or money and practically become terrorists because they are not fit to manage them properly.

… Opportunity for uplifting comes to others and they cannot be considered for them because they are not fully equipped professionally.

When the widow of the prophet in the fourth chapter of the book of second kings ran to Elisha about how she was in debt and the creditor was threatening to take her sons from her, he asked her to go borrow vessels.

She had to prepare the container first. Not until she had done that did the blessing in form of the oil begin to flow.

Even Jabez prayed that God should enlarge his coasts.

This is what I want you to get from this:

You need to build your capacity for the blessing you so desire. In other words, prepare yourself for the height you look forward to; groom yourself for success.

“Enlarge the place of thy tent, and let them stretch forth the curtains of thine habitations: spare not, lengthen thy cords, and strengthen thy stakes” (Isaiah 54:2 KJV)

The New Living Translation puts that same verse this way:

ā€œEnlarge your house; build an addition. Spread out your home, and spare no expense!” (Isaiah 54:2)

When it comes to building your capacity, you must be ready to go to the farthest length and make the greatest form of investment possible.

How can you increase the capacity of your vessel?

Do things that will make you grow in all ramifications.

Here are some examples :

… Eat the Word of God like no man’s business.
… Dedicate time to fellowship with God like never before.
… Read books that will grow your understanding and prepare you for what’s coming in the future.
… Develop strength of character.
… Improve your emotional intelligence.
… Go back to school and get better educated.

… Borrow like that widow if you have to.

Just make sure that you enlarge your vessel. Look inwards and discover in what aspects you need to build your capacity.

“Study to show yourself APPROVED unto God” says Paul to Timothy.

Timothy was admonished to invest in himself so that he could become fit for the height that was prepared for him.

In the case of the widow that I began this post with, the oil ran out immediately there were no more containers.

Some people don’t get their blessings because they don’t have the capacity to hold it in while those who get those ‘blessings’ without being fully able to take them on are those that mess it all up.

I pray that God will grant you deep understanding of these words in Jesus’ name!

Dare Your Fears

Today, I want to share with you two major experiences I have had with FEAR. . .

I had this terrible fear/hatred for dogs that lasted so many years. It all began when I was a young girl. I had lived with a dog owner who treated us (human beings in the house) badly because of his dogs. For instance, he would buy milk for the dog while we didn’t get any to drink. We slept on empty stomachs sometimes when he got angry that we hadn’t fed the dog or given it enough food; because he had thrown our dinner away. It was really awful.

My hatred for that particular dog gradually grew into deep fear for dogs generally.

I literally began to shake when I saw dogs especially if they were not the local Nigerian breed of dogs.

I was really praying that I wouldn’t marry a man who loves dogs. But hey, my wish was not granted.

When I discovered that my husband loves dogs I changed gear for my prayers. I began to pray that he would not think of getting a dog despite his love for them.

I had thought that my prayers were being answered until there was an attempt by burglars to break into our house and boom, my husband decided it was time to get a dog. I hated the idea but I had to let go under the condition that the care of the dog was his sole responsibility.

We were both good with the arrangement until one day…

My husband had travelled and I was wondering how I would handle the dog. We had someone who helped with the dog whenever my husband wasn’t at home but wasn’t going to be available the next day. This person came in the evening to feed the dog and let it out of the cage and the plan was to wait for this person to return late morning to lead it back into it’s cage. This meant that we were going to be stuck in the house until then. However, I woke up the next morning to observe my quiet time. Immediately afterwards, I just told myself, “I can do this. I can lead that dog back in”

Immediately I stepped out through the door, with a rod in hand and it’s food in the other, I saw the dog run away. I was wondering where it had gone. I walked towards the cage and peeped from a distance to see where it was (for fear of it not attacking me from the back) only for me to see it already standing in its cage.

I hadn’t said a word of command to it before it took dressing. Lol

That incidence proved to me that fear is indeed an illusion.

I had a similar experience with driving. I had an accident when I first begun driving several years ago which completely crippled my confidence to drive a car. I refused to drive for so many years.

It was so bad that I would scream at my husband if he drove too fast to let me alight from the car so that he could go and jam the car all by himself. (I am laughing at myself right now)

I would fight my husband whenever he tried to motivate me to try driving again. He tried petting me but it didn’t work. He tried the path of tough love but that didn’t work either. I said he wasn’t patient enough with me.

The truth however is that it was totally my fault that I couldn’t drive.
The culprit was my mind. It was all in my mind that I was going to have an accident if I tried to drive.

It was when we had access to a second car that it occurred to me that my inability to drive was an issue.

I had to wait for my husband to take me wherever I had to go but could not take a bike to. I was a regular bike rider while a car was parked at home. Why? I just couldn’t summon courage to drive

You see, I have killed snakes before. I am a naturally rugged person that dares all sorts. I can face anything and take on any challenge but these two, were big issues for me. My friends called me fearless (well now I believe I FULLY am). Many of them ask me if there was anything I couldn’t do. Let me not bore you with the list of things I have tried in this life.

My decision to break the jinx was spontaneous. I just woke up one day and started driving again. I was always chanting the thirteenth verse of the fourth chapter of the book of Philippians (I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me) when I first set out to dare my fears. And God has been faithful to His Words.

I have so many stories to tell about me being faced with fear. It’s just that I found it more difficult to conquer these two.

Fear respects no one, I tell you.

It will raise its ugly head anytime you try to embark on any path that leads to greatness.

Face your fears squarely.

Stop allowing fear cripple your visions.

Let your fear become afraid of you.

…It’s either you scare your fears or your fears scare you from achieving greatness.

It’s really left to you to decide who or what wins.

Forget about the negative ‘what ifs’ and charge forward towards greatness not minding the scary thoughts.

Great people do not settle for the easy way out. Fear makes you cower and run from taking risks.

Pursue your dreams…

Live your life fully…

Receive strength to forge ahead without fear!

Ā©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

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Venturing Into Dark Places

On a certain day just a short while ago, I had to move from a lit room to a dark room within the house. I had to walk down the dark hall to switch on the light bulb. Immediately I got into the dark room, I couldn’t see anything. However, as I walked farther into the darkness, I noticed that I began to see things in my way.

My experience was instructive because I could hear the Lord speaking to my spirit and I am sure someone needs to see this too.

Do you know that human beings have very good ability to adapt to situations especially with continuous exposure?

When you step out of your natural habitat, the initial reaction is that of discomfort. However, if you force yourself to stay there, you come up with a strategy to adapt.

As a child of God, when you try a certain sinful act the first time, you feel really terrible about your actions because your conscience is still really sensitive. The truth however is that the further you try to silence the voice of your conscience by indulging your flesh, the more silent it becomes. As time goes on, you literally find yourself being able to see well in darkness; you get accustomed to the ways of darkness without any remorse.

Your refusal to jerk backwards upon entering the wrong territory marks your doom.

A little compromise of “it doesn’t matter” here and there and you are finished. You see why backslide doesn’t get started and completed in a day? You have to take consistent backward strides towards that deadly point.

This is a call for you to make a U-turn from that dark road of lying, gossip, fornication, adultery, fraudulent activities, theft, drunkenness, unfaithfulness, etc; before it is too late.

You know I could have taken a lamp into that dark room right?

I am aware of the fact that we live in a dark world. Therefore, you can only be saved from being lost in that darkness if you make sure to carry your light with you wherever you go. “Ye are the light of the world”, says The Lord.

Never leave your light behind because you don’t want to be called names or termed fanatical. Darkness can never override light; darkness must just give way at the sight of light.

Never let your guard down.

Shine brightly.

Let the lights come on!

  • OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD
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