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MAXIMISING TIME

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Two men I met during my late teenage years left an indelible mark on my life. Both men were Pastors in the Nigerian Baptist Convention ( Revd Tayo Orodiji and Revd Goke Adeleke). These two men were sold out to God. They were really passionate about ministering to youths and they were all over the place recovering souls to the Kingdom of God.

The ZEAL of these men was contagious. They lived their lives like their time was almost up… As if they knew they didn’t have much time on their hands. Hmmmm

Both men died on the same day in a ghastly motor accident over twelve years ago.

Revd Orodiji in particular wrote several books that are still very relevant in the youth ministry today; permit me to say even more relevant now than then. He wrote a lot about relationships and issues pertaining to sexual purity.

Their works live on long after they have gone away from here.

I have been challenged too much in life to live my life without caution. This is one major reason I just keep doing things that I am called to do with all zeal. Yes, I keep dishing them out as they come because I know time COULD be short after all and I am not ready to take chances.

I made a resolution a long time ago, that keeps me pursuing purpose with every sense of determination… I must die empty.

Are you still nonchalant about your life and the fulfilment of your purpose?

Has God inspired you to do something and you have been procrastinating?

I am calling out to you today.

If you miss out on the opportunity to live life to the fullest today, you will never get another ‘today’ when you decide to wake up from your slumber (and that’s if it’s not too late by then).

This is not to scare you with the issue of death… Not at all.

This is simply a reminder that you do not know if you will be here on this side of eternity ‘tomorrow’.

Today is the surest opportunity you can lay claim of.

Maximise TODAY …

Take action towards fulfillment of purpose.

… So that you can hear your Creator say to you, “Well done, good and faithful servant; enter into your Master’s rest”

Registration has commenced for the INSPIRE MY WORLD WRITING COURSE / BOOT CAMP.

It’s a special course / incubation centre for everyone who knows he or she has a message for his/her world and would like to pass it across through writing. You really should not miss this opportunity.

To register for the writing course, please click HERE

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Please, How Do You Do It?

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There is something I need your help explaining to me… This is an issue that I have always wondered about. I have had several reasons to wonder how two things that seem to be incompatible can be exhibited in the very same space.

A Nollywood movie I watched a few days ago actually brought this issue back to mind and I knew it was time I spoke about my worries thus the conception of this post.

In that movie, there was this guy who deprived his wife of sex for about 3 months or more after the wedding. I mean from day one… No honeymoon things.

His commonest excuse was that they needed to pray. It was either that he just had a nightmare when the wife makes advances at him or that he was observing lent in August. Even on their wedding night, it was prayer that they prayed till they both slept off and I was like, “Are you kidding me?”

The wife kept suffering in silence. She was deeply frustrated.

To cut the long story short, he kept using the issue of prayer to camouflage his obvious purpose of punishing his wife.

Now, this was the real issue which he refused to reveal until after the lady attempted suicide:

The wife had stolen money from the husband’s late brother (whom she worked with as a secretary) which she gave this same man to travel out of the country with. It was during the period when they were out of the country that the elder brother died from a stroke linked to the money which was stolen from him; when he couldn’t resuscitate his business or make ends meet.

He had later sponsored the lady to join him overseas and returned to the country together for their wedding. Upon their return, the man took his fiancee to meet his sister-in-law and that was when he got to know about what had transpired between his wife-to-be and elder brother.

So, instead of confronting the lady or calling off the wedding he went ahead to marry her with the intention of punishing her.

Did I mention that while the wife from suffering from deprivation, this man had a side-chic that was performing his wife’s conjugal duties?

What am I driving at with my narration?

I have seen people who profess to be believers and sometimes can pray like fire would descend right there in their prayer rooms act terribly towards people around them.

I have seen pastors who are skilled in dividing the Word of truth beat their wives blue-black upon every slight provocation.

I have seen tongue-talking, fire spitting believers rob their bosses or involved in fraudulent activities at their places of work.

And all I can ask within myself is, “How do they do it?”

How do you harbour sin yet are able to pray?

How do you keep malice and are still able to raise ‘holy hands’ to the Lord?

How are you able to steal money and yet bring the tithe to church?

How do you abuse your spouse physically or emotionally and still be able to stand before the congregation of the righteous with your hypocritical smiles?

How do you call yourself a child of God and still act like that of the devil?

How can light and darkness live in the same vessel at the same time?

…Because the Holy Spirit I know will always call you out when you are out of line.

Something must definitely be wrong somewhere then, I conclude…

Either you are not born again in the first instance or you have decided to continually ignore the voice of the Holy Spirit to you.

This is a call to you reading this to examine your ways.

Check where you have fallen from and make amends. Allow yourself to be thoroughly broken down, have a circumcised heart which is sensitive to the voice of the Holy Spirit and decide to begin to obey Him always.

May your eyes be opened to those areas of your life that are not conforming to the standards of the Word of God.

And may grace be multiplied unto you as you decide to repent of your ungodly ways!

©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola

 

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BE FULLY PREPARED FOR SUCCESS

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“By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail”.

Do you know that statement? In case you didn’t know, it is true. Yeah, that statement right up there is very true.

When people look into their future, they have one of two reactions. The first reaction you can have about your future is that of fear. The other is optimism.

However, I make bold to say that just being optimistic cannot guarantee you of that beautiful future that you so much long for. You just have to do something to ensure that you have that beautiful future. You have to put in some work. It is not enough to wish for a successful future; you’ve got to WORK for it.

Even the Bible tells us that faith without works is dead.

On the other hand, being fear will cripple you and debar you from taking any steps towards a successful future. Worse still, it makes you loose interest in the future after all.

The idea of preparing for a glorious future is relevant in EVERY aspect of life. This is so because the first step in the process of preparation is your decision to have a glorious future in that particular endeavour… It all begins in your mind.

This is why it is imperative to feed your mind with stuff that will help you succeed.

To help you prepare for married life, I have provided a 3-part video resource for you and I strongly believe that you should watch all.

My aim is to inspire you to plan for a successful marriage. . .

In video 1, you will find out why it is important to be sure you really should get married. It will even help you reevaluate your reasons for wanting to get married.

In video 2, I highlight in clear terms what you should do while getting ready for marriage. You will learn about stuff you should talk about during courtship.

In video 3, you will learn about what to expect in the early years of marriage…

To access these videos, please click HERE

P. S. Feel free to share with all the singles on your list or among your friends… Encourage them to prepare.

Be blessed!

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Teaching Your Child About Wins and Losses

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Some weeks ago, one of the mummies I met on Facebook who is a proprietress contacted me to ask for permission to publish one of my articles in the school’s magazine (You can read the article HERE)

Coincidentally, just a few weeks after that I was in a secondary school to fellowship with the students on a Sunday morning. One of the girls that asked to speak with me after the ministration told me how sad she was. She said she had low self-esteem (her words). She told me that her classmates make fun of her because she was poor with spellings. Amazingly, this same girl was the class monitor for her class. And I sure know they don’t make dullards class monitors. She was good with other things in school but a singular weakness was greatly capitalized on.

I did all I could to encourage her to believe in herself and never to think of herself as a failure. I told her to focus on her strengths too. I made her realize that even if she came last in class, it still didn’t make her a failure. It just tells her that she needs to put in more effort.

Gladly, she left feeling relieved.

You see, parents have a lot to do with instilling the right attitude in their children.

Parents need to show their children the right lens through which they should view life. We need to make them realise that they are wonderfully and fearfully made by God and that they are not less human because they are not performing as well as their counterparts.

In the same vein, they need to learn never to look down on anyone because they seem to be doing better than they are.

Teach them what success really means. Real success is not earned by comparing your achievements with others. It is all about fulfilling God’s purpose for you. You’re a success when you live up to God’s expectations of you; not man’s.

They should strive for excellence in being the best version of themselves and not wanting to be someone else. They can learn excellent virtues from others. And there is nothing bad in them allowing themselves to be motivated by the successes of others.

However, they must be trained never to lose their identity while in the pursuance of excellence. They need to embrace and appreciate their uniqueness.

When they ‘win’, they must thank God for the grace to win.

And when they ‘lose’, let them embrace their loss with dignity as they believe that it can only get better with the help of God and due diligence.

May God bless our children!

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Long Lasting Fragrance

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As a Nigerian girl living in a country with serious power supply problems, I had practically no choice than to get myself a stove iron. I couldn’t afford to plug in the electric iron on the supply from the generator.

In case you are an assorted fella and know nothing about the stove iron, it is simply an iron that you can place directly on the burning stove and then use to iron your clothes. You can actually convert an electric iron which is no longer functioning to a stove iron. All you need do is cut off the power cord an voila, you are good to go!

Whenever you need to iron your clothes and the power has been seized, stove iron to the rescue!

One thing though, you have to be careful with the temperature you allow the iron attain before placing it on your precious dresses. You know this type of iron has no control so, first swipe the surface through a piece of cloth you can afford to do away with. With time, you will get used to

You can thank me later for the tip 😁

To my main gist. . .

I turned a bottle which formerly contained air freshener into a spray bottle for my ironing works. I would therefore constantly put clean water into the bottle and spray on the clothes I was ironing at that time. Ain’t I genius?

Amazingly, after several months of using that particular bottle; putting fresh supply of water at intervals the bottle still had the fragrance from the air freshener. It was such that whenever I sprayed water from the bottle I could perceive the fragrance from the former contents.

I mean, I still saw that bottle today and it still smells really nice.

As I placed the bottle back down, I heard in my spirit “LONG LASTING FRAGRANCE”

Do you know that God made you for impact?

When He allows you live in a community, share a room with someone or work in a particular office you are planted there to make impact.

Sadly, many of us pass through places without leaving any mark behind.

You need to know that God is always intentional about His actions and if He places you somewhere it must be for a reason.

If you take a look at your life you might be able to point out one or more persons that have left an indelible mark on your life by their good deeds. And you still remember them long after possible separation.

Can you do a check on how you have lived your life up until now and ask yourself if you had maximised every opportunity for impact that God had given you in the past?

Not to worry, today and tomorrow are brand new opportunities you have for impact.

When you leave where you are today, will you even be missed?

And what will you be missed for?

Good or bad deeds?

Is your life giving off sweet smelling fragrance or irritating odour?

This is a call to invest in the lives of people around you. It is the greatest form of investment you could make; I can assure you.

Care for people. Love them. Seek their good. Show concern for their conditions. Bless them. Pray for them. Be an encourager. Don’t shut your eyes on their needs.

Be good.

Leave a mark.

Live purposefully!

© OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

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Cultivate Your Garden

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The newest addition to my library

About 20years ago, our youth fellowship president who doubled as my school father asked me a question which was brought to my remembrance recently. He asked me who my role model was in ministry and without thinking twice on that particular day I said, “JOYCE MEYER”.

I love Joyce Meyer. She is an awesome woman. A teacher and she also serves in the help ministry. She has a message for women. Same with T.D. Jakes. These are the major areas I see God nudging me towards so I concentrate my efforts on being equipped to take it on.

I don’t live where they live so I do something to get impacted by them.

…. I stock my library with their books.

I read them.

I pay to gain knowledge from them.

I would rather buy books than fill my closet with clothes and shoes.

One thing that endears me to my mentees who are closest to me is that they love books. That attitude is a magnet between me and them.

You see, purposeful people never stop tilling their ground and tending their garden. They identify what’s important and focus on that. They water the ground and fertilize it with resources that will enrich it and in turn lead to a bumper harvest.

God has placed you in a garden like He did Adam so that you can till it. That garden is your place of purpose.

The law of sowing and reaping is so real. If you invest in your calling, you are bound to excel therein according to your Maker’s standards and if otherwise the obvious.

I keep going on and on about being intentional because it’s the path I have chosen for myself and I desire above many things that you will take this route too. (I did a video on the subject matter and you can watch it HERE

Life is too short to go about it unintentionally.

Take charge of your life.

Invest in things that matter.

Feed your passion.

I can tell you firsthand that only when you live your life purposefully can you have a sense of fulfillment deep within.

“Why spend your money on food that does not give you strength? Why pay for food that does you no good? Listen to me, and you will eat what is good. You will enjoy the finest food.” (Isaiah 55:2)

Purpose is calling on you to give it attention instead of things that will not satisfy you which you are busy investing in.

… Felt strongly to charge you thus today.

I hope you get the message and take action in the right direction from today henceforth . . .

Be blessed!

©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD

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7 Premarital Errors To Avoid

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If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do?

Laying the wrong foundation for your marriage can only land you in disaster.

I have identified some errors which can destroy your ‘happily ever after’; that you can fall into while looking forward to married life. I have chosen to share with you 7 of these errors in this video.

Watch out for these and run far from them like a plague if you don’t want to find yourself buried under the rubble of a bad marriage…

WATCH THE VIDEO NOW

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FORGIVENESS : A special Gift to Yourself

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The first time I heard about the word repression was in my dream. I had been suffering from incessant headaches before that time and despite by constant intake of pain killers, the headache wouldn’t just go away.

On a particular day, I woke up from a dream where I saw myself in front of a doctor and his diagnosis was that I was suffering from repression. I kept saying the word “Repression?” over and over until I woke up.

I immediately started ruminating on my dream and all I could tell myself was, “I know about depression so what is repression?”

I had to carry out some research on the word and was then able to discover the root cause of my health issues.

In this video post, I share some of my personal experiences while dealing with not being able to forgive and how it affected me spiritually and physically.

You will also find out why it is very important to always choose to forgive and how you can easily forgive those who have hurt you.

WATCH THE VIDEO NOW:

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