When we declared our vows, most of us repeated the words to have and to hold, till death do us part. But have you ever thought about what it means to have and hold your husband?
To have implies a possession. It means he belongs to you and is no one else’s. Are you fulfilling your sexual responsibility to him? For frequency? Creativity? Have you turned him down more often than you have invited his love? Do you put his needs before or after those of your children or work?
To hold means to keep or bond, much like a magnet. A magnet has the power to pull a polar opposite to itself. You may be virtual opposites (most likely) but you must continue to be a magnet if you must cultivate your relationship with him. You are that magnet anytime you communicate, “I am available.”
Ok, it applies to you too, Mr husband!