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When I was a single lady, I would speak about marriage with all authority anytime I was leading Bible studies. Someone asked me one day how come I knew so much about marriage and how I had answers available for many questions pertaining to marriage. I simply told that person that it was God at work in me and through me.
Have you ever thought about the fact that majority of the issues about marriage in The New Testament were written by Paul- an inexperienced man. Because he wasn’t married. But he spoke with all authority. He understood the mind of God when it came to the issue of marriage, amidst other issues. He was inspired to write about what he himself had not been through. That is why a person that has just been married for a year could successfully counsel another who has been married for 20 years. This can only be made possible by The Holy Spirit.
Don’t rely on the wisdom of man being portrayed or nicknamed ‘experience. Rely totally on The Holy Spirit. Experience is good. It is fine to listen to others with experience. But you must realize that everybody and every situation is unique.
Therefore, wait on the Lord. That’s why we are instructed to trust in the Lord with all our heart and lean not on our own understanding.
What worked for marriage A might not work for marriage B. And what worked for a situation last year might not work for a similar situation this year. Even if you are the one with the experience, remember that the factor of time has changed; it’s a different time now from what it was then.
I want you to make up your mind to ask God about what He wants you to do per time. Let Him instruct you on how to approach EVERY issue you are faced with. Ask Him what His mind is. Let Him lead you to the right person to counsel you. Let Him tell you whose experience is profitable for you and those that are of no relevance to you.
The fact that a person’s approach to a similar issue seems sensible/logical does not infer that you should apply it to your case. Don’t embrace any shared experience without allowing The Holy Spirit sift it for you. . .He will teach you all things.
Experience is not the best teacher, The Holy Spirit is!
~OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD