I am aware of the fact that many people find it odd telling their spiritual leaders about a relationship they are intending to start. They prefer to inform them later on. However I am of the opinion that they should be informed early enough.
There are certain advantages of informing your spiritual leaders early about an intended relationship. One point that is of note is the fact that it helps prevent entering into a relationship that you’re not supposed to. For instance, a married man, or someone in multiple relationships at the same time. It is true that the conviction must be received by you. However, God places specific people in our lives for particular purposes. Your spiritual leader is not left out of that equation. No one is a know-it-all. Seek guidance, and seek it EARLY. Don’t wait until you fall into a ditch and then you begin jumping from pillar to post in search of remedies. Let them guide you through the right path.
Where no wise guidance is, the people fall, but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety (Proverbs 11:14).
It ensures that the relationship is open. Light shines on the relationship. This helps promote a healthy and wholesome relationship. I guess knowing that you are being ‘watched’ will give a sense of responsibility thus the intending couple behaves correctly/ as is expected of a child of God.
Note: Because someone is called a Pastor doesn’t automatically qualify him/her to take up this role I’m talking about here. So, allow God lead you to the right person.
Or what do you think about this issue?