I have this strong urge to beg someone here today not to go ahead with plans to marry that unbeliever.
I’ll like you to meditate on this scripture yourself:
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers [do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and Belial [the devil]? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? What agreement [can there be between] a temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God; even as God said, I will dwell in and with and among them and will walk in and with and among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be My people. So, come out from among [unbelievers], and separate (sever) yourselves from them, says the Lord, and touch not [any] unclean thing; then I will receive you kindly and treat you with favor, And I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty. (2Corinthians 6:14-18).
You know in your heart that that man is not a child of God. He seems good on the surface, but he’s not born again. His spirit is not on the same page with yours. He lives life carelessly. He is just a moralist. Let me tell you something, anyone who is not controlled by God is at the mercy of the devil. He has no power to do good by himself. Don’t set yourself up for disaster. I really fear for you.
I’ll like to give an illustration that depicts what happens when you marry an unbeliever. You are trying to start a fire and the man is constantly pouring water into the fireplace. You will not make progress that way. You will keep struggling. In case you don’t understand the yoke idea, imagine tying the neck of a calf with an height of 0.3m to a 1metre tall bull. What happens? One is dragging the other while the other is being dragged. He just won’t meet up with the expectation of the taller counterpart. Their pace will never be the same. They just are not meant for each other. Constant rift and complaining exists. O such discomfort.
The part that gives me a whole lot of concern is the expected outcome of the children’s faith. You confuse them. What usually sadly amuses me actually is how to go about the nomenclature of these children. Then you hear something like Quadri Abraham so so so and so. I then wonder if they will take turns to lead them through the two different religions. And if one of the parents is just not taking God seriously, what message is being passed across to the children? It’s really pathetic. Children are the heritage of God. He wants you to train them in His way. Don’t make life difficult for them.
And please, don’t be deceived by his promise to change after marriage. I have heard of several cases like that. They didn’t. They actually became firmer on their grounds of converting the wife to their side. Some promise that you are free to do your own thing while I continue with mine after marriage. Hmmmmmm.
Why settle for disunity when I can wait on God to give me a man with whom I can pursue a common goal. Someone with united purpose. Please think it through again. Let God lead you. Don’t go yoke yourself with the wrong person.
Can two walk together except they agree? Impossible. If your spirits are not united, how else will the remaining part of you be united? Marrying someone with a different stance when it comes to the issue of faith is putting yourself on two sides of a rope. You are parallel lines. You keep pulling towards different directions. Save yourself the stress. Stop playing games with your life.
~OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD