I tell them, “I have been there before”. I had vouched NEVER to get married if the picture of marriage I could see in most places around me was what marriage was really about. I was scared to death of marriage.
However, being relatively an emotional person, I definitely had to pour my love somewhere. I found the perfect avenue. I focused all my energy on pouring my love on God. And it was refreshing. I loved doing just that (and i still do). I just loved being in God’s presence and working for Him. And I wanted Him to be the only one to share that level of intimacy with.
Lo and behold, while having a chat with The Lord one day, I heard clearly, “I need you to get married”. I began to protest against that voice. I gave reason upon reason why I thought it was best I stayed single. And the reply was simple. “Your motivation is fear. There is no fear in me. Don’t worry, I will not let you make a mistake. I have prepared one of my sons for you”
It was at that point that I allowed by heart begin to think of the possibility of me getting married. I began to let loose a little. I began to pray for my married life afterwards. Trust me though, the Omolola that I am, I was still afraid of the choice I believed God had approved up until a week before the wedding when I prayed some violent prayers and was ready to call off the wedding if that was not the right path. I was assured that God had indeed approved the relationship when I was blessed with inner peace at that point.
Is my marriage perfect? No. Why? We are two imperfect people married to each other. But we enjoy the grace of God. We are happy and fulfilling purpose.
You can have a happy marriage too my friends. Yes, there are so many unhappy marriages and the divorce rate is on the increase but there are still happy marriages. I know several happy marriages – those that are happy for real; not the type that are just faking their happiness and are just enduring their marriage.
Desire a happy marriage. Pray for it. God will give you one. Let God lead you along the best pathway for your life (Psalm 32:8).
God gives good gifts to His children. Just be ready to follow His instructions 100%.
Clear out from your mind the negative notions you have about marriage. Look forward to having a marriage that you will enjoy and not endure. And be ready to work at having a marriage that honours God.
The fact that your parents had a wobbly marriage doesn’t mean that you would too. History does not have to repeat itself with you like it has with your siblings. You don’t have to marry a wife abuser like your neighbour did.
Do it right. Walking this road with God is the right way that will lead you to the right destination.
I pray for the ear that hears the Lord clearly for you in Jesus’ name.
P. S. I’ll be featuring some beautiful couples on this platform soon.
~ OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD
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I love this… Presently, I unconsciously feel scared of getting married…
It’s normal to have feelings of fear especially considering the state of many marriages today. However, that doesn’t mean you will have a bad one too. Put your trust in God and follow His lead and you will see Him lead you to a place of rest.
By God’s grace, you will not miss it in marriage.