Esther chapter 1 records the story of King Ahasuerus being in high spirits as a result of the influence of wine and he in turn decided to dethrone his queen in the heat of the moment.
You can be ‘high’ when you are under the influence of many things. This range from anger and stress to excitement.
These emotional influences if not handled properly can destroy your relationships just like it did that of King Ahasuerus and Queen Vashti.
There are two sides to this issue of dealing with this ‘highness’
That moment when your spouse is high is not a good time to raise sensitive issues or demand that an important decision be made.
The probability that he/she will not reason well is on the high side. Why not choose another time to reason with him/her? I believe that is what wisdom would ask you to do.
It is also important to make sure that you do not fuel your partner’s high moments or join him/her in getting ‘high’.
The other side of the matter is for you to be careful what you say or do when you are the ‘high’ one. The words you speak while you are angry may have caused some deep wound in the heart of the one you are talking to. When you are angry, you might say or do things that you will regret for the rest of your life. Like they say where I come from, “Words are fresh eggs. Once they are smashed on the ground, they cannot be retrieved.”
There is a great need to be sensitive when it comes to relating with people generally.
As much as lies in your power, avoid making decisions when you are ‘high’. Allow the effect of the emotions to wane off before proceeding with important steps.
This is why you need the Holy Spirit in your life to help you control yourself.
Self control is a fruit you must bear as a child of God and if you will maintain peaceful and fulfilling relationships.
Have you been handling your ‘high’ moments properly?
If not, ask God to help you and He will. You will them find out that you can have an enjoyable relationship and not have to endure your partner.
©OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD
