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A Deadly Choice of a Spouse


When I was still single, one of my suitors was this guy who got himself disqualified because of just one action. I had even decided to pray to God about his proposal when he committed the blunder that blew his chances of me considering starting a relationship with him.

I can say that we were friends to an extent. What could have disqualified him was the age difference between us. He was almost ten years older than me. I couldn’t even call him by name or even speak freely with him. Now, that seemed like an issue for me because I felt the relationship was going to be laden with some sort of fear from me towards him.

I had been thinking about the age difference and had began talking to God about it when I decided to go speak with my Father in the Lord.

Immediately I raised the issue of the age difference, my Pastor spoke in favour of not letting age be a barrier hence shutting my heart completely to what God might be saying to me.

Lo and behold, this guy’s call came in as we finished speaking about the issue and my Pastor started teasing me. As I answered the call, I guess he could hear my dad speaking underground and he asked me who it was. I told him who I was with.

His next reaction left me in shock.

He started practically insulting my dad. I even mentioned to him again that that was my Pastor he was talking about and that he was a father figure in my life but he didn’t think what he did was wrong.

I tell you, that was about it with him.

Thank God for the Spirit of God. I was given a clear message I later got to read about from other people years later.

“Don’t marry anyone who respects no one”

A deadly choice of a spouse is that of a man or woman who has no reverence for anyone in particular. Someone whose parents and elder ones are toothpicks like Yoruba people would say is a disaster waiting to happen. Someone who has no regard for servants of God is a very bad choice for a spouse.

How will someone who does not revere people he can see revere God?

You cannot tell me that you fear God and respect Him and have no regard for fellow human beings.

This is because the fear of God will help you act wisely.

My single friends, I would be direct with you on this issue. Flee from such people.

And you yourself should fear God and learn to respect elders.

A spouse who respects no one in particular will give his/her partner problems.

Be guided.

  • OMOSEBI Mary Omolola
    © 2016

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Omosebi Mary Omolola (PhD)

Omosebi Mary Omolola (Ph.D) is a lover of God, a disciple of The Lord Jesus Christ and a teacher by calling. She is on assignment to groom godly youths and women through the help of the Holy Spirit in this end-time. She treasures family. She has a strong desire to see marriages thrive in this troubled world. She speaks and writes passionately about marriage, relationships, and Christian living. She enjoys a beautiful marriage with her husband and best friend. She is a mother, writer, an entrepreneur and researcher and teacher of Food Science and Technology.

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