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First Things First


Bola: Hello dear
Dupe: Hi
Bola: I need your help
Dupe: Ok. What’s it about?
Bola: I want you to HELP me pray about my marital life. I know that you always hear from God well. I want to know if Lekan is d right choice of a marriage partner for me.
Dupe: You mean the same Lekan?
Bola: Yes
Dupe: God will help us.
Bola: Amen! Thanks.

(Bola has been in a relationship with Lekan for 5 years. Both have had carnal knowledge of each other. They have violated the word of God “Thou shall not commit adultery” on several occasions.)

Why should you have to beg someone to pray on your behalf to God (who is your father), when you have access to Him except you have broken the link by engaging in sin? I am not saying that you shouldnt tell your Pastor/mentor to pray along with you concerning issues. What I’m saying is that even if your Pastor prayed along with you, know that you must still hear from God by yourself what He would have you do. This is why it is important to develop a personal relationship with God.

Having said that, some of us do think that God is a fool(smiles). We want him to speak to us when it comes to marital choice/decision when we haven’t been listening to His voice when He speaks concerning other issues of life prior the desperate search for His will for a marriage partner.

How do you expect God to speak to you when you have become an unrepentant sinner?
Even if He speaks, how will you hear Him when your heart is far from Him?

You need to check yourself by asking yourself these questions: How much of yourself have you given to God? When was the last time you took out time to study His word, checked your spiritual growth and prayed to him?

You dont want to miss it maritally, but you are already on your way to missing eternity.

Hmmm. You need to reorder your priorities.


Come back to God. He is your father and He loves you still.

  • Deborah Olujimi

Omosebi Mary Omolola (PhD)

Omosebi Mary Omolola (Ph.D) is a lover of God, a disciple of The Lord Jesus Christ and a teacher by calling. She is on assignment to groom godly youths and women through the help of the Holy Spirit in this end-time. She treasures family. She has a strong desire to see marriages thrive in this troubled world. She speaks and writes passionately about marriage, relationships, and Christian living. She enjoys a beautiful marriage with her husband and best friend. She is a mother, writer, an entrepreneur and researcher and teacher of Food Science and Technology.

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