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What You Don’t Control Will Control You

My best food as a child/teenager was beans and fried plantain. O, how I loved the combo.

You see, whenever I see plantain or perceive the aroma of fried plantain, my stomach begins to dance. Fried plantains just have a way of calling out to me. It resonates with my alimentary canal like jam on bread.

Alright, before I go on and on about my love for plantain, let me tell you the reason for relieving the moments I have had with my dear plantain.

One day when I was a teenager, I was in the kitchen frying plantain for dinner. It was my habit to put slices of fresh plantain in my mouth while I cut for subsequent frying.

I had just put a slice in my mouth when the door to the kitchen opened. Guess who made his way in?

My father whom I feared so much.

I didn’t even think twice before I swallowed the plantain in my mouth. And to think that my mother always insisted on cutting the slices really big.

The plantain got stuck in my esophagus. My father tried asking me a question but I couldn’t even talk; I only nodded. He left after a few seconds and I tried to drink water to push the plantain down but it didn’t work. I had to spit the water out because there was no passage way for it. I tried coughing it out instead all to no avail.

At last, the plantain made its way down into my stomach after some minutes. Tears rolled down my cheeks uncontrollably as my chest got numbed by pain.

I really could have died that day. But thank God for His mercies.

I suffered seizures in my throat for several YEARS afterwards. At times when I was eating, my throat would just shut down.

The aftermath of my greed was a constant reminder of my actions.

How then could I ever forget that experience. Narrating it now even gives me the shivers.

You see, it’s normal for your body to react when you see a pretty lady you like. It’s normal to have those sexual urges as a single person especially as you grow older. It’s normal for you to miss your wife so much because you are on a 1year course faraway in Europe while she is in Africa.

What’s not okay is engaging in sex with someone who is neither your wife nor husband because your body feels like having sex.

If you do this, you will choke.

Maybe not physical choking with unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.

. . . But you will be judged by the Maker of heaven and earth. And that’s the worst kind of choke you could suffer.

Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value], and the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. (HEBREWS 13:4 AMP)

The scars of sin sometimes are indelible. No sinner will go unpunished.




It is greed to lust after someone that is not yours.

You have no right to carnally desire any man/woman you are not married to.

What you do not control will surely control you.

What you need is the means to control those urges because they usually visit you without writing you an application letter. Ask for God to grant you the grace to be self-controlled.

Your obsession will kill you if not controlled.

Stop feeding your lust by exposing your heart to things that will corrupt it and push you more towards sin.

Flee all forms of sexual sins as if it were a plague. It really is a plague that will NEVER do you good.

You don’t have to indulge your body. It will not die from not having sex.

If you do not know how to say “No” to your body when it’s under some form of sexual pull, it will drive you into destruction.

This does not only apply to sexual sins but all sins generally.

Another major problem you will encounter when you engage in any form of sexual sin is that you will not have inner peace doing it.

You will live in constant fear; fear of being exposed, getting infected with STIs or getting pregnant amidst others.

I admonish you therefore friends, let your life be controlled by God.

No matter how far you have gone on the path of sin, you can always make a U-turn and decide to be sexually pure.

You can start afresh with God. All you need to is repent of your sinful ways and decide not to go back to your vomit.

The force of sin is stronger than your Will power.

You need God in your life. He is the only one that can help you.

Ask Jesus into your heart today so that you can escape the wrath of God that awaits all unrepentant sinners.

If you refuse to heed the call of God to you for repentance, you can be sure that your sins will catch up with you someday.

For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 6:23 NLT)

Choose life today!

© OMOSEBI Mary Omolola (PhD)


Omosebi Mary Omolola (PhD)

Omosebi Mary Omolola (Ph.D) is a lover of God, a disciple of The Lord Jesus Christ and a teacher by calling. She is on assignment to groom godly youths and women through the help of the Holy Spirit in this end-time. She treasures family. She has a strong desire to see marriages thrive in this troubled world. She speaks and writes passionately about marriage, relationships, and Christian living. She enjoys a beautiful marriage with her husband and best friend. She is a mother, writer, an entrepreneur and researcher and teacher of Food Science and Technology.

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