There is this perception that I have developed over time with relation to my relationships and it helps me set my attitude towards my partner right. I have decided to enjoy my relationships for as long as they last. Yeah. You might think that that is a weird attitude but it just makes me harness the best my relationship has to offer in the NOW.
I basically hope for the best while I keep it at the back of my mind that anything in the name of ‘worst’ can happen. I therefore choose to enjoy my partner maximally now that he/she is with me for good.
When I talk about relationships here, I am not just talking about marriage but friendships and relationships with acquaintaces too
I have come to realize that some relationships are just for a season of life and that they can end at anytime either because of separation caused by natural death or when the people involved have served their time in your life.
With this at the back of my mind, I just can’t hold a grudge against my partner. I often think that anything can happen at any time and I do not wish to live or leave my partner with memories of not being in good terms when we parted.
This might be perceived as pessimism to some but it helps keep me in check. My brain is always alert to ask myself things like, what if my partner or I do not wake up tomorrow morning or something bad happens to either one of us while taking a journey with this grudge lingering between us? We all wish for the best of life and that we would always have one another but you know, life just happens sometimes; oftentimes unexpectedly.
To this end, I seek to settle all conflicts as swiftly as possible. I often say that it is not worth the life of your relationship to allow quarrels sap the precious and limited energy and time from it. Instead of wasting time brooding over the wrong your partner has done and the fight that has ensued as a result, why not invest in grooming and enjoying your relationship.
It’s a CHOICE that you have to make to pick joy and love over every form of negativity that seems justifiable for hate and unhappiness.
You just have to be intentional about your decision because circumstances surrounding your relationship might make you wonder if you really should choose to enjoy your relationship with your partner.
We are assured of today; tomorrow ain’t certain. This is a fact we must always put in perspective.
Enjoy the today of your relationship!
OMOSEBI Mary Omolola, PhD
